My 4 y/o has been talking about his absent father much more frequently lately. It used to be that he would mention him once every couple months. But within this last month, it's happened quite often. He will excitedly tell me that his father is coming to see him or something along those lines. Then end it with an "Okay, mommy?" or "Riiight?!" He has not seen nor spoken to his father in about a yr. I used to just say "Okay, sweety." or "Yeah, sure." And he would accept that and forget soon after. But now that he's getting a little older and is asking more often I'm wondering if I should approach it differently. How do you let a 4 y/o know that his father is NOT coming to see him? That his father has gone hiatus for a long time, and it seems that it will continue for much longer. Should I tell him anything at all? I don't want to psychologically traumatize him. But I'm going nuts wondering if he really IS 'waiting' on him.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:35 PM on Jan. 17, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by lighthousemom3 at 10:17 PM on Jan. 17, 2009
Answer by Ginger0104 at 9:48 PM on Jan. 17, 2009
He obviously has figured out that his dad isn't around, that's why he's bringing it up. It probably confuses him that you keep agreeing with him about his dad seeing him. He already knows some thing's up. I think you should be honest with him. Tell him you don't know why his dad doesn't see him.
Then call his dad and tell him what an ass he is. If you give me his number I'll do it!
Answer by MAUREEN55 at 10:08 PM on Jan. 17, 2009
Answer by lighthousemom3 at 10:21 PM on Jan. 17, 2009
Answer by BJoan at 3:34 AM on Jan. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:25 AM on Jan. 18, 2009
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