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I just want my kids to be healthy!
I grew up in a house hold that ate a lot of junk, and most of my family is over weight. I have struggled a little bit during and after my pregnancies but I am doing great now. There is a lot of diabetes in my family and a lot of heart disease in my husbands family.
My DH eats so much unhealthy food everyday. He seriously eats garbage. When I make a meal for us to sit down and eat, he eats with us, but skimps out on all the healthy parts. As much as I wish he wouldn't do this, I let it go. I mean, he is a grown man, and I figure he can do what he wants. But lately, it is affecting my DS. My DS has been saying lately that he doesn't want his healthy snacks, or healthy foods... that he wants to be like daddy. My DH says, you don't want to be like me Jaxon, you want to be like momma, she is healthy! (so I guess that is good)
It is frusterating! When I just told my son No to an unhealthy choice, and then my DH comes out and sits on the couch with a big bowl of ice cream... of course my son wants some. And yes I let him have treats, just not all the time. I don't think a four year old needs a big bowl of ice cream, and have candy, and doritos every day.. but when daddy is doing it around him all the time, what am I supposed to do?
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Asked by Anonymous at 7:56 PM on Feb. 13, 2012 in Diet & Fitness
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Ultimately, you're the boss and, while it would be nice to have everything mom and dad have, that's the beauty of making it to adulthood. He can eat poorly then, if he so chooses.
I think, if it were me, I would put together a schedule of "treat" days. So, you could say "Thursday night is Ice Cream with Daddy" night. That way, he knows that there is a treat to look forward to but he's also given the firm impression that Thursday doesn't equal every night.Found an answer to your question?
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It may be a bonding thing for your DH. Men are weird. Who knows where their thought process goes? But at least he sounds supportive of you, to a certain extent.Found an answer to your question?
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DD has to earn her treats by eating her veggies. Good habits begin at a young age, so its our responsibility to set the boundaries. You love your little one, so don't set him up for poor health as an adult. Keep your eye on the big picture, mama! We want our children to outlive us after all!Found an answer to your question?
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It is so weird because when my DS was little, my hubby was so particular about what we fed him, but some where in time that all went out the window. He not only gives him lots of junk, he gives him HUGE portions. I don't know why his thinking on our boys food changed but mine sure didn't.
Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 8:16 PM on Feb. 13, 2012
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I've had more than one conversation with my hubs about that. Just be consistent and firm in what you want...tell your dh that from now on these on the rules when it comes to food and ds.Found an answer to your question?
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We just don't eat the junk in front of our DD. I eat my junk food while she is napping or down for the night and so does my SO. My DD also sees both Mommy and Daddy eat our veggies and show her good habits. FYI my DD would rather have a piece of fruit then a piece of candy or a cookie. Tonight I had to break an orange into several smaller bite size pieces b/c she has a sore on one of the corners of her mouth and it was painful to bite it ( I was going to eat the orange but she decided that she wanted the tiny pieces instead).Found an answer to your question?
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I don't keep junk food in the house because if I do I know I will eat it. The big thing I did with my kids is never force them to eat or clean their plates like my parents did with me. I always made healthy meals and never did dessert every day. Dessert was always on the weekend. My son ate like a snake. He would have a big meal and then pick at the next several meals until he became really hungry and then eat another big meal. My son loves fruit and my daughter only eats certain fruits. But if I buy frozen fruit I would make them into smoothies which are healthy and she gets her fruit. I would buy frozen berries and OJ or apple juice, some yogurt and vanilla extract and blend until smooth. My kids love hummus and all kinds of things. I try not to judge food so they wouldn't have any negative misconceptions about it.Found an answer to your question?
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Good for you! It is time for a family makeover. Start with simple changes, one a week.
Make sure that everyone drinks enough water, the adults should drink at least 8 8oz glasses a day.
Don’t buy junk food
Take a family walk or bike ride after dinner, or do other exercise, for at least 20 minutes a day
Start meals with cut apples, oranges, vegetables with hummus, or a salad with a non-mayo based dressing
Serve 7-8 servings of fruits and vegetables a day, in at least 3 different colors.
Replace all of your white/simple grains with whole grains; serve 3-5 servings of whole grains a day.
Serve 1-2 servings of legumes a day.
Cut way back on meat and dairy.
I have a ton of recipes that are tasty, healthy, simple, family and budget friendly; send me a message offlist if you would like some
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Kids learn more by example than what we say, and your son wants to be like his Daddy so unfortunately unless your dh agrees to change his eating habits, I don't think there will be change in your son's habits either.
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Start slipping in "heart healthy" meals and before you know it, they will like eating the better food.Found an answer to your question?
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