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I'm having a really hard time sticking to my guns on this issue
I had a terrible time breastfeeding last time it hurt me,it hurt my baby,it hurt my husband, everybody came out of that bitter and hurt and never wanting to hear about breastfeeding again. All in all it was incredibly sucky for everybody involved and we were all MUCH happier on formula.I don't want to breastfeed but I also don't want to hear the comments again from friends,family,WIC. I just can't deal with the comments and the insults and I'm so scared that the nutritionist at WIC will yell at me again. I'm kind of a sensitive person especially right after I have a baby. I really can't handle it but caving into what everybody else wants will just make me and my family sad.
So considering that I'm a VERY sensitive person and that I really can't tell people especially family to shut up. Any ideas for dealing with the hurtful comments?
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Asked by Anonymous at 4:22 AM on Feb. 14, 2012 in General Parenting
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How did it hurt your DH?Found an answer to your question?
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As far as the WIC office, I have a friend who works in one, they are being told to push breastfeeding because formula is getting more and more expensive meanwhile more and more people are qualifying for WIC and the government doesn't want to pay for everyone's formula. This is also the reason for the WIC changes such as they don't provide 100% of your formula and they offer a lot of food to breastfeeding moms.Found an answer to your question?
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If you don't want people at the WIC office judging you for formula feeding, why not just buy your own formula? For the life of me, I can not understand why the government buys formula for people who could breastfeed, I know there are some women who can't (but women who honestly can't are few and far between) but if you want the convince (it's not really more convenient unless you work or are away from your baby alot) of formula feeding, buy it yourself.Found an answer to your question?
Answer by Anonymous at 4:52 AM on Feb. 14, 2012
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Just tell them that it was horrible for everyone involved and its your body and your choice so stop trying to push breastfeeding on you.Found an answer to your question?
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Tell them this is a sensitive and personal issue to you and I don't want to talk about.
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Just pump then. Or learn to stand up for your self. One of the two.Found an answer to your question?
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Or lie and say you went dry.Found an answer to your question?
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I don't blame you on the WIC thing. I had a horrible experience when my now 8.5 year old was a baby. So bad, in fact, that I have refused to set foot in another WIC office since.
Like other moms have said, what you choose to do with your body and your family is your choice. If ANYONE tries to push their agenda on you let it go in one ear and out the other. You can be polite and say something like, "Thank you for that information, I will definitely consider it".
Good luck on whatever you choose to do.Found an answer to your question?
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Rosehawk, wow you showed them, you didn't like the way they were treating you so you stopped going to get free stuff.Found an answer to your question?
Answer by Anonymous at 6:54 AM on Feb. 14, 2012
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My oldest was in the NICU after being born and the nurses gave her bottles. After that she wouldn't latch on and pumping was a hassle. I did breastfeed my son for 4 weeks until I found out I wasn't producing enough milk. I had one day where I needed to get a lot of stuff done and he just cried all day even when I went to the bathroom. He wanted to stay latched on all day. When my husband came home from work I handed him the baby and said deal with it. He got a formula bottle and my son sucked down 6 oz in less than a minute. At that point I raised my hand and said that was it.
On another note, my dad was breast fed when he was a baby and still ended up with colitis and eventually having to have a colonostomy due to cancerous cells in the colon. I hate when people say breast feeding is the cure all for everything because it's not.Found an answer to your question?
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