I recently read the question about adoptees being adopted back by their biological families and as an adoptee who has been adopted back by my biological mom and dad I'm a bit confused by most of the responses in that question.
I see everywhere so many people praise adoption when an adoptee is too young to have a say in whether or not it is what they want but in the post about adoptees who actually get to finally choose their adoption I saw very few who actually supported this and many who couldn't say enough how much they disagreed with this.
One answer even mentioned how it was just a piece of paper that would make us adoptees feel better but didn't really matter which hurt and didn't make any sense because it was a piece of paper that started my adoption experience in the first place.
Is my choice not important at any stage in my life?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:02 AM on Jan. 18, 2009 in Adoption
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Answer by Anonymous at 1:12 PM on Jan. 18, 2009
I think the 3rd anonymous answer down hits the nail on the head as far as answering your question "Especially since you are supposed to be forever grateful and indebted to your aparents for taking care of you." and in res ponce I have a quote for you "Adoption Loss is the only trauma in the world where the victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful" - The Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE
I think society in general underestimate the pre-natal bond between mother and child and while most, almost all, adoptees attach to their parents and are fiercly loyal to them, not all do and that should be respected.
Your'e right when you were infant you had no say, now your an adult it should be all about you. Don't let anyone scilence you.
Answer by onethentwins at 3:09 PM on Jan. 18, 2009
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