Ok to break up the family for my own desires?

Married to a good man for 16 years. 2 Kids 18 & 14. Stable home life.

But I am so tired of the same old same old. Have fallen in love with a friend and he has asked that I move to his town into his home 2 hours away. I would love to be with him and to get out of the small town I grew up in. 18 year old going to college in the fall. 14 year old would have the choice to stay with Dad or come with me.

Am I wrong for even considering this? Or is it ok to follow my dream?

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:30 PM on Feb. 14, 2012 in Relationships

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Unless there is a valid reason like abuse, adultery etc I never think it is alright to cheat and take off with another man.

Answer by gemgem at 12:31 PM on Feb. 14, 2012
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Uh,yeah
this would be the epitome of selfish

Answer by butterflyblue19 at 12:32 PM on Feb. 14, 2012
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I think that you need to get out of your for sure stable marriage before you jump into a fling relationship that may not work. Are you sure you want to break a good man's heart for a little something with another man? I'd think long & hard about this..

Answer by SuperrMommyy at 12:32 PM on Feb. 14, 2012
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Not just that but with kids 14 & 18 you will surely lose their respect.

Answer by gemgem at 12:34 PM on Feb. 14, 2012
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For so many reasons I truly believe this would be a bad decision. A really bad one.

Answer by BrawnwynII at 12:34 PM on Feb. 14, 2012
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Oh wow that is tough. So are you not in love with your DH anymore? That is a lot of time invested in the marriage. Ultimately you want to be happy and if leaving makes you happy then go for it but just make sure this other guy is worth it. Take time to think things through completely. You wouldn't want to make any rash decisions. Have you and your "friend" been intimate yet?

Answer by zoriah26 at 12:35 PM on Feb. 14, 2012
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I think it's selfish. I am being mentally abused and choosing to wait till my kids get older. To each their own I guess.....

Answer by Anonymous at 12:35 PM on Feb. 14, 2012

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Typical case of the grass always looks greener on the other side. If you are unhappy then find out what went wrong with you & your DH. Obviously you had a close relationship at one time. Rekindle it. The kids are almost grown now it is time for you both to live your lives the way you planned, together. GL!

Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 12:36 PM on Feb. 14, 2012
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No, your 14 year old is still developing an identity. Sounds like you have the midlife itch. Please treat this with care. Decisions will always have consequences. Right now, find your town's chamber of commerce and find an interest group. Through these interest groups, the town won't feel so small.

Answer by BlueSaphire at 12:39 PM on Feb. 14, 2012
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I do love my dh and will hate to see the look on his face if I were to announce my affair and decision. Although there is little between us anymore, I think he does still love me. And I definitely worry about the kids and how they will feel... hoping they would eventually forgive me and understand.

Have been friends with new guy for 7 years. Have been more than friends, including intimacy for only 3 months. But he is absolutely amazing!

Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 12:39 PM on Feb. 14, 2012