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I just cant do this
I was sexually abused as a child and I was raped later on by a boyfriend, so sex and seeing body parts that were involved in my abuse is triggering for me,I had a hard time in the prenatal class too. All the breastfeeding pictures and just generally pictures of breasts at the doctors office and at WIC is really causing problems for me. The doctors office didn't have a problem moving things or coovering them but wic will not stop. I realize that they cannot change all the posters and stuff just for me but even when I tear the pictures out of my own booklet they replace it everytime I go in and just keep telling me over and over again that I need to just get over it because its natural or the worst is when they have to tell me how some women find it healing. Seriously you cannot just break this down to that I'll be fine because SOME women find they get better. Maybe I'm not some women and what the hell is maybe someday you'll choose to stop being victumized? What the hell does that mean really?Or that maybe if you'd just become educated and stop being so ignorant then it would become beautiful and non-sexual.Sorry I'm done ranting but really who says that to somebody? Its literally telling a person who has been raped to stop having triggers at all.
Can you buy formula on food stamps? Cause if so I'm getting outta all this bullshit if I can.
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Asked by Anonymous at 5:30 AM on Feb. 15, 2012 in General Parenting
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I am so sorry that your life had a bad start. You must get yourself in therapy, and learn to move on; do this for your child, if you won't do this for yourself.Found an answer to your question?
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Every state is different about what can and cannot be bough via food stamps. You can go to FSSA.org and find out per your state. Also, if you have a friend, sibling, husband, etc. WIC does allow a replacement person (at least in California and Indiana do), this might be an option so you don't lose WIC. I am terribly sorry for your frustrations and your awful past. If you need to vent some more, you know where to find me! :)Found an answer to your question?
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There are therapies to help desensitize people to their triggers. I am so sorry that you are dealing with these issues, but seek a counselor who does this kind of desensitizing therapy or get some good books on it at the library for a start. GL hugFound an answer to your question?
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I agree with PPs. You need to seek a method of treatment for your unresolved issues. You are acknowledging what has been affecting you all these years which is the rape and abuse. The trauma is making you unable to function "normally" and now more than you have a child.
Your Health Insurance Co. most likely covers for Psychological and Family Counseling. They can also refer you to Support Groups. Others who are facing same issues as yours.Found an answer to your question?
Answer by Cafemomoftwo217 at 8:35 AM on Feb. 15, 2012
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Yes food stamps should cover formula. I would report the person at WIC who told you that, btw. I do feel that everyone should give bfing a good try, but if it causes trauma for you, I'd rather you use formula- happy mommy nothaving flashbacks is better than you tormenting yourself as much as 20 times a day (based on the height of my girls growth spurts-they would cluster feed and I would spend most of the day feeding them when they were newborns) With that said, I do think like pp that counseling would be good for you- this can't control your life forever. You may never be able to nurse. You may never be able to escape those triggers. But maybe with therapy or counseling you can learn different ways to cope so you can live your life without that dogging every step.Found an answer to your question?
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I understand what you are going through and I know that counseling doesnt always help! But I do think that you should at least give it a try. But yes FS should cover formula. And I would also look into getting a replacement person for the WIC because formula is not cheap! And that will save you over $100 dollars each month! I would report the person that said that to you though.Found an answer to your question?
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I was able to get formula with my WIC checks. Food Stamps should also be usable for that. It is a food, after all, for the baby.
As for your situation.......counseling would be a big help. Having someone that is unbiased to talk to helps, especially if they specialize in that area of trauma.Found an answer to your question?
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