How do you keep the spark alive?

Lots of physical contact (not necessarily sexual), and making sure that there are sometimes where we get to be a "couple" instead of "parents" like after the kids go to bed or a night out (although that is extremely rare with our children so young right now).

A couple examples of "touching" that isn't sexual that we do quite often is staying in bed a few extra minutes and cuddling and talking before we get up for the day...holding hands in the car...cuddling up watching TV after the kids go to bed.

And then there is communicating frequently. We talk during the day even if it is just a quick text to tell each other something interesting we saw or heard. I suppose as far as communicating goes, talk to him like he is your best friend. I let that one go for a while, and realized how much better our relationship is when we are friends too LOL

After being married for 6 years and twin boys we are still in our dating phase. There is a lot of laughing and flirting. I think the key is to not get settled in the domestic things. I can't wait to see my husband when he gets home and a lot of his friends at work say that he is eager to get home too. I try to get all of the house done and make something good for him to eat and I get dressed nice and do my hair just right. I think he appreciates the effort and the fact that I take care of things so well. I love that we can still laugh and joke like kids and flirt with each other. It just takes effort from both of you. A little goes a long way.

I agree with the first two. We've been married for 23 years, and never allowed the spark to die out. Even when we didn't have childcare, we had 'date nights' at home, flirted with each other shamelessly....kept the focus on being in love. I count the minutes until he gets home. And, even though I may go without make up etc., all day long, I try to fix myself up at least a little before he gets home.

There is really no question. I absolutely love my husband so all we have to do is have a date night and we realize that we need to have that more often.

I think the main thing is to always put your mate first. Let him know every day that you would marry him all over again and never forget why you chose him of all the men in the world to commit to for life. My husband and I just marked our 47th year of marriage, and it is better today than it's ever been. He has always been the pursuer in our relationship, and he still is. He came looking for a wife and he chose me, and I think that has made a huge difference. All I've ever had to do to keep him interested is love him with all my heart, and the "spark" has remained.

I usually get out of bed a little earlier that he does.... to get his coffee ready and pack his lunch to take with him for work.....most of the time it is just a simple lunch, SOMETIMES I TAKE TIME COOKING HIM A PASTA SALAD, a VEGGIE SALAD...or MAKING HIM A FRUIT SALAD etc....with a fancy tuna, turkey, sandwich...etc.
Something else that helps me to remind him how much we need to work on our sparks AS A COUPLE IS TO TALK ABOUT OUR DAY....what happenned, how did it go.....when should we schedule TIME FOR JUST THE TWO OF US ALONE....and time for ALL OF US AS THE WHOLE UNIT = THE FAMILY!