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Visitation between biological siblings seperated by foster care and adoption

visitation between already biological siblings seperated by foster care and adoption, helpful or harmful? And for certain biological sibings who by age were to young to know a biological sibling/s or do not have a bond/s with a biological sibling/s as they have not been allowed enough time with each other to bond, is it pointless in allowing them access visits with each other. Because for some people, who have a foster child/ren or adopted child/ren who are happy with there foster parent/s and there foster family/adoptive family, DNA does not always mean family.

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:53 AM on Feb. 16, 2012 in Adoption

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  • It means family to the kids. When they are grown they are going to seek one another out and ask why they were never allowed to know each other?

    Answer by gemgem at 8:22 AM on Feb. 16, 2012

  • In my opinion, age is always a huge factor in these types of situations. How old are the children now?

    Answer by BrawnwynII at 9:17 AM on Feb. 16, 2012

  • Visitation is always best for siblings.They will seek each other out when they get older.

    Answer by meooma at 9:45 AM on Feb. 16, 2012

  • Why would there be an objection to siblings knowing and seeing each other ?Unless there is somehow a threat of physical harm knowing siblings is positive.In the reunion research ,group ,books etc. I have learned that when there is a reunion it is not unusual for the siblings bonding to go easier and quicker...there isn't any or very little baggage on anyone's part.So if there is an opportunity for siblings to know each other why block that


    Answer by drfink at 1:14 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

  • DNA does mean family and there is a bond between siblings. They absolutely should have the right to know each other. Just because their parents messed up doesn't mean they should be punished for it. How good their adoptive family is or isn't is irrelevant.

    Answer by onethentwins at 2:05 PM on Feb. 17, 2012

  • I am trying to keep all the siblings as close as possible. I make sure they all know they are welcome here and we are all one different kind of family. We have visits one a week or every other week. When they get older I am sure we will have to adjust that.

    Answer by adopteekjt at 9:46 AM on Feb. 19, 2012

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