Why am i doing this?

I can't stand dating. I do however want to be with someone so dating is the only way to do this. So why when someone shows an interest do I always hesitate? I have this guy that called me yesterday. We've been chatting for about a week but I'm just not excited to talk with him. Emailing with him was fun and I looked forward to getting those but now I'm not as excited to talk to him on the phone and possibly get asked out. I only have one day a week and every other weekend to go out. But I think that if I was really excited about going out with someone I'd do it. Otherwise I just don't want to waste the small amount of time I have on someone. Am I not ready to date? Do I just want the email attention? I think that I should go out with someone only if I'm excited to go. I don't want to feel like I have to which is how I do feel right now about this guy. What do you think?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:29 AM on Feb. 16, 2012 in Relationships

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If you have no desire to go out with him you shouldn't.

Answer by meooma at 9:38 AM on Feb. 16, 2012
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I'm with you! Your logic is sound but it probably won't get you where you want to be. It can't hurt to go out with the guy to build confidence up about dating. I like online emailing and chatting too. I am in control. I can delete someone I don't like and sign off if I'm bored. It's not as easy in person. Just jump in feet first and try going out with the guy. If you just don't like him don't go but it never hurts having friends to go out with.

Answer by admckenzie at 9:41 AM on Feb. 16, 2012
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Yeah I feel the same way about this guy that is interested in me. I want to date but then when I am asked out I am hesitant and I say I just don't have a lot of free time. I would stick with my gut and not go if you have no interest.

Answer by zoriah26 at 10:53 AM on Feb. 16, 2012
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Sometimes we are just scared of getting hurt so, we push people away. BUT, if it's gut telling you that something isn't right then you need to listen to it.

Answer by 3libras at 11:27 AM on Feb. 16, 2012
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Is it possible you're just nervous and that's why you withdraw when it's time to actually meet someone? Or are you fairly fresh out of a relationship and not ready to plunge ahead full speed with dating yet?

Answer by vicesix at 12:11 PM on Feb. 16, 2012
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Just take it slow and do what only feels comfortable to you. No explanations necessary to anyone.

Answer by tasches at 1:54 PM on Feb. 16, 2012
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Sounds like you are not ready.

Answer by gwen20 at 11:02 PM on Feb. 16, 2012
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