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I need help with not feeling the need to be available 24/7 to my husband and kids. What happened to me???
This is it, My husband takes me for granted because I am always available, always ready to do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING for him and my kids. I don't feel appreciated by both, my husband and kids.
Everytime we fight, I am ALWAYS the one to go to him and make things right.... Kids need something, it's me of course, house, me again! What about me????? Where did i go? What happened to me? I just had a baby and she is 7 months today :) I've gained all this weight that i have YET to lose. I won't go to the gym because I don't want to leave home alone since he works from home Mondays and tuesdays and he's always home Sat and Sun.... All of my freinds tell me that i am to available, i don't have a life of my own... I don't have much freinds since I just moved here a while bak...
What do i do? I want to be unavailable sometimes... I want him to wait for me once in a blue moon, I want him to be like, wow, she has a life other than ME????? I want him to miss me, I want him to ask to spend time together. I want him to notice a change in me....
I'm just sad..... I don't even feel like i exsist anymore... i don't feel like anyone of my family members at home apreciate me and appreciate what i do for all of them!
Please help
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Asked by Anonymous at 1:20 PM on Feb. 16, 2012 in Relationships
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Burn baby burn! He's being pretty selfish if he can not handle you being unavailable for a hand full of hours a week. Quite frankly, I wouldn't think twice about it. He'll survive.Found an answer to your question?
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I think it would help you to read BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend.Found an answer to your question?
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Why NOT go to the gym? Just go. Really. Pick up the keys and go. Unless you think he's going to burn the house down? (Mine leaves a tornado behind constantly!)
Unfortunately, you can't make someone appreciate you. Do things because YOU want to do them and because it feels right to do. The best rewards come from within, not from without.Found an answer to your question?
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You just need a break from it all. It can be overwhelming at times. *hugs*Found an answer to your question?
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You say, "Yes I'm leaving the baby and I'm going to the gym. I don't know when I'll be back...so try to keep the place picked up." Then you WALK OUT THE DOOR.
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Do you have somewhere you can go for a few days. Make them realize all that you really do.Found an answer to your question?
Answer by Anonymous at 1:22 PM on Feb. 16, 2012
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I get the same line when i mention the gym. Men! I would love to go to the gym but dont want to deal with the crap guilt trip and inuendos after. I dont know what to tell you, but when you figure it out let me know. K=)Found an answer to your question?
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I do have a freind I can go and visit next weekend. The thing is, he does appreciate me but sometimes I just don't understand him.... I guess I just want to have a life of my own... I want to do something important, for myself, for this world other then just for my husband and kids. I have been applying for jobs but no one has replied back...
Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:28 PM on Feb. 16, 2012
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Going to the gym, he makes me feel guilty, like, oh, your going to leave baby home>? How long u going to be? Are you getting the kids? But he says he doesn't care if i go and acts all cool, but i know he's not. When i do leave him with the kids, i come back and the house is MESS!
Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:29 PM on Feb. 16, 2012
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Khedy, I can do that but I know when i would get back, he would be all weird and stuff. Like acting NOTHING is wrong but he's burning up inside
Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 3:19 PM on Feb. 16, 2012
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