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My ds is 3 and in early childhood. well when I pick him up they tell me if he had a good day or a bad day. Lately it seems he has been having a lot of bad days. So we thought maybe if he got a detailed chart showing what he was to do, and got stickers for doing well he would have more good days.... I just got his two week report....Last week he did good, lots and lots of stickers. This week not so much. He is apparently hitting, kicking, throwing blocks, spitting, not listening, and not listening. I don't know what to do. He does not do any of that stuff here at home. He listens very well, I don't normally have to ask more then once for him to do something. Yes he is mean to his sister, but I am still working on that. And he most definately does not throw toys in our house. I need help, is there anything I can do or say to help them with his behavior there? They are a corpural punishment school, but I don't know how I feel about letting them spank him. Dh is totally ok with it, but me not so much. I am starting to think he is just not ready for preschool. But he needs the speach therapy (he is hard of hearing, and has aged out of the first steps program they offer here.) I just don't know what to do. He has structure here at home, we have a schedule. Maybe I need a more strick schedule, idk. Sorry this is so long I'm just heart broken that he is being so mean to everyone at school. Thanks
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Have you sat in on some classes to see how things are run? Do the teachers have experience in dealing with hearing impaired children? I have hearing loss and my mom met with teachers religiously so that they could easily deal with my issues and I could have a good experience. Other idea I have is if the class is too big he may not be getting enough individual attention that all kids need. GLFound an answer to your question?
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Sometimes other kids can be an influencing him. He may just see others doing it. Can you schudule an in class sit in so you. Can observe. His behavior for yourselfFound an answer to your question?
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How do they respond to these behaviors in the moment when they are happening? These are problematic behaviors but they are normal for preschool aged children who are negotiating social issues with other same-age children. They need to be guided through their inevitable conflicts, and that's most effective when their caregivers have a clear understanding of the needs & feelings that are leading to the behaviors. If these teachers are focused mostly on punishment, they probably aren't able to offer the support & guidance that would help the most. And the (negative) focus of their responses may lead to more of the problem behaviors, because instead of helping your son cope with his feelings & express his needs more optimally, they increase his frustration by not recognizing & acknowledging his validity, or really being able to see him for what he intends. But it doesn't seem that their attitude/philosophy has much room for this.Found an answer to your question?
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three is a horrible age. I will take my hormonal sixteen year old over any three year oldFound an answer to your question?
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(since they practice corporal punishment in preschool, I mean.)Found an answer to your question?
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I agree with sitting in with him at daycare to see how it is run and how he is reacting. It seems from your post you are doing all you can even at home which is most important. At his age 3, he is just learning how to deal with feelings and emotions- his lashing out is his way of dealing for right now..lol. When he is angry his methods hitting, kicking etc is his way of reacting. Giving him or helping him cope with some of these issues is key but of course this will take some time. Letting him know its okay to be angry but its not okay to hit. Talking through his emotions is important and just letting him know its okay. Hopefully with time and some coping methods he will understand what is acceptable behavior and what is not.Found an answer to your question?
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Thanks guys. since they don't have school monday I'm going to go in tuesday and ask to sit in like you suggest that sounds like a great idea.
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