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Should the choice of circumcision be left to the father of the child?

with my family, that's exactly how it is. we are pregnant with #2 and if its a boy my husband will decide whether or not we do a circumcision for the baby, and as far as i know, my husband is choosing to have him circumcised.
i dont feel like i am entitled to make that decision cause i dont have the same equipment.

what about you?

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mcr17

Asked by mcr17 at 3:13 PM on Feb. 16, 2012 in General Parenting

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  • I let my DH decide, but that's only because he had a strong opinion on it and I didn't.
    Telephus44

    Answer by Telephus44 at 3:16 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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  • when we found out my 3rd was a boy (bit of a surprise cause we had 2 girls already) I did kind of leave the choice of circumcising up to my dh because honestly I didn't know that much about it. Of course i read up on the pros and cons but at the same time I felt like you do, i don't have the same equipment and I don't know what its like to take care of said equipment so my dh was better suited to make that decision. My dh and my ds are both circumcised. My sister and BIL chose not to circumcise their two boys, i don't know what their reasoning was and i really don't have any desire to ask them (nor to know whether or not my bil is circumcised :P).
    DreainCO

    Answer by DreainCO at 3:17 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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  • I think it should be the choice of both parents. If they don't agree, weigh the pros & cons & whichever there are more of, that's the way to go. Just because you don't have a penis, doesn't mean you don't get a say.
    SuperrMommyy

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 3:17 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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  • I left it to my SON to decide. If he reaches the teen years and wants it done,we'll get it done then
    I don't understand why it should be the dad's decision alone. Why would it matter if their penises matched or not?
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 3:18 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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  • im not saying i dont get a say but i think he is more qualified to make that decision.
    mcr17

    Comment by mcr17 (original poster) at 3:19 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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  • In my religion all boys are circumcised at 8 days of age by a mohel, a specially trained rabbi. I was very happy at my son's bris. It was done in the house, held on a pillow by his grandfather and surrounded by family and friends.
    robinkane

    Answer by robinkane at 3:19 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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    The thing about circumcision...The baby doesn't remember it. I get why moms don't want to see their sons cry and be in pain. However, they get over it and forget about being hurt. My boyfriend and I have already decided it would be up to him. This is like the one thing that dads get to decide on their own.
    SaraD1989

    Answer by SaraD1989 at 3:19 PM on Feb. 16, 2012 (hidden) + expand

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  • i dont see it really any worse than hearing them scream and cry when they get shots.
    mcr17

    Comment by mcr17 (original poster) at 3:21 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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  • We made that call together, 100% together... with some advice from our child's doc. My DH was the one who took him down and stayed with him while they did it in the hospital... he was pleased with himself for sticking by our little guy. When it comes up years from now I think that will be a good story to tell out DS!! ;o)

    Crafty26

    Answer by Crafty26 at 3:22 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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  • We decided to let our son decide since it is his body. If he wants it when he is older and able to verbalize that is what he wants then we will do what we can to make it happen. Obviously every family has their own way of handling this situation therefore I will only say how we dealt with the issue of circumcision.
    Izsarejman

    Answer by Izsarejman at 3:23 PM on Feb. 16, 2012

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