SD lives 3 states away. BM has allowed only one visit from SD to our home. We have visited her twice. It has been three years since we have seen SD. BM blocked all our attempts with excuses of other plans and now says SD doesn't want anything to do with her father because he hasn't seen her. BM new husband of 9 years is very wealthy so SD goes to a private school, new car, designer clothes,etc. Now with college this fall, she wants to go to a school with40K a year tuition. Our lifestyle can not support this standard of living and has been shoved in our face by BM continuely. I have been in the picture 5 years. We email, call,write and all have gone unanswered. Gifts go unacknowledged and checks uncashed by SD. I don't know what to do. BM is bitter,angry,jealous,and vindictive-this is putting it lightly. When my husband quit taking BM abusive calls, his daughter quit communicating with him. What can we do we haven't?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:26 PM on Jan. 18, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by gemgem at 3:29 PM on Jan. 18, 2009
Answer by desert_diva at 3:40 PM on Jan. 18, 2009
Damn! that sucks to have to do all this to the daughter and she don't want nothing to do with ya'll. I know you are not the bm but shit you are the new (2nd) wife in his life so whatever he goes through you go through. I am sorry you are going through all this shit but it happens some worse than others. Just be the better people and sooner or later she will come around. Does he try to talk to her one on one if not he needs to start and stay in touch regardless what that woman says. Just kill her with kindness but never let that communication stop with the daughter.
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 3:46 PM on Jan. 18, 2009
It is funny how they are doing alot better with the next man in their lives and still are not happy and I bet she is gladly excepting the child support payments because they are entiltled to it. Oh give me a break. I swear some woman. Just keep in touch with her and she will soon realize she has a dad and stepmom who love her over where you live.
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 3:50 PM on Jan. 18, 2009
Just let your SD know she she is loved and cared about. Try not to feed into her mothers drama it is not healthy. have your husband open a savings account with the money he would send her. (since she does not cash the checks) Continue calling, sending her cards and visit her!
Answer by mommiedear at 7:46 PM on Jan. 19, 2009
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