Ugh---- TMI

so i've posted about wanting more attention from my dh.. feels like we're just roomates. well tonight he was looking like a fox and i told him i'd been hot for him all day. i reached down "There"... and asked if he was hard for his super hot sexy wife... then he responded with no. im pretty soft right now. wtf. im just crushed.

EDIT: we've been going through a rough patch.. mostly about me wanting more attention and affection and compliments. so he's well aware of how i'm feeling. i have been going above and beyond trying to get up every morning, making sure i've got makeup.. hair done.. he hates when i just lounge in sweats so i've been dressing a lot better (SAHM lol). and i make sure i do all that before he wakes up. but i just get nothing. i had been telling him all day how hot he looks. i figure if i laid it on thick then he would get the hint and he would start donig the same.. atleast that was the advice in one of my groups.

i love him soo much we have children together.. and i know he loves me.. but theres a difference in loving someone and still being attracked to them. sad times i guess... and no i know he's not cheating.

and on a side note... dh's MAXIM just arrived in the mail.. and he cant stop looking at it. perfect day for that! awsome

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:40 AM on Feb. 17, 2012 in Relationships

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Wow, I guess you got your answer. (ouch) Sorry,

Answer by 3libras at 1:44 AM on Feb. 17, 2012
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But did you try to GET him hard???

Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:04 AM on Feb. 17, 2012
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"But did you try to GET him hard???"
I am thinking the fact OP was flirting with him, he should have at least been half hard. Lots of men always claim that when a woman a g/f or wife make the 1st move, they think its hot.
OP...do you think he may be cheating on you?

Answer by Michigan-Mom74 at 2:09 AM on Feb. 17, 2012
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Well did you try to look sexy for him too? I don't have enough info to try to help... As far as I see it he is being very honest but he seems to be unattracted to you or maybe he has other things on his mind. dont get upset please give more details or reverse the situation... And you fix yourself up don't put boundaries.

Answer by christinkie at 2:20 AM on Feb. 17, 2012
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That's a pretty callous response to a sensitive question. Have you told him that you desire more attention from him? Because some men just suck at picking up on signals (though a hand on his crotch is pretty hard to miss). Either way, try talking to him explicitly. If he's unwilling to meet you half way (either through counseling, spending more time together, etc.) then you should seriously look at why you want to stay with someone like this.

Answer by bellalana at 4:39 AM on Feb. 17, 2012
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Does he have a lot of stress in his life right now? If not he just sounds like a jerk.

Answer by MooNFaeRie30 at 5:50 AM on Feb. 17, 2012
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Damn he didn't have to say it like that. Did you just stop after that or did you try to get him up?

Answer by zoriah26 at 8:21 AM on Feb. 17, 2012
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Put your mouth on it, that usually works for my guy... although... just kissing him usually does the trick... if you talk too much it usually spoils the mood... maybe he wanted you to get him up

Answer by VanessaMomof2 at 10:45 AM on Feb. 17, 2012
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^^^ Yep. VanessaMomof2 is right. There are ways to get what you want. ;o)

Answer by Caoimhe_Oona at 12:17 PM on Feb. 17, 2012
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the 5 love languages is a really good book. It talks about how different people express and recieve love in different ways. It can help you understand your partners "love language" and help them understand yours, so you can both express it ways the other understands. i would pick up a copy and ask him to read it as well :)

Answer by gypsymama532 at 8:32 PM on Feb. 17, 2012
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