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How do i get my kids to stop crying and screaming !!!!!

Hello , i have a 3 year old boy and a 6 year old girl and all they do is cry and scream , dinner time is horid they wont eat and when told to eat they start to cry scream and run to thier rooms this goes for picking up thier toys or anything else as well ...ive tried many many things from standing in the corner for time outs to taps on the butt to putting them in thier room and even taking things away but those all seem to make it worse HELP !!! any suggestions that i havent already tried ???

 
Rachel311

Asked by Rachel311 at 4:07 PM on Jan. 19, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • How long do you put them in time out?

    Leave them there until they are ready to do as told. It could take 30 minutes...who cares? Leave them standing there until they say they are ready to eat their supper, or pick up their toys. And have them standing...nose in the corner...they tend to get tired quicker!

    While standing there, they get no toys, no music, no books, no TV and no YOU.

    If they say they'll do what they were told, let them out of timeout...if they don't go do it right away, put them back in.
    TiccledBlue

    Answer by TiccledBlue at 4:38 PM on Jan. 19, 2009

  • Try talking to your kids calmly when they're upset. If they can't calm down enough to explain to you why they are upset, then they need to go to their room until they have calmed down. Once calm, discuss why they are upset. Kids scream because they aren't being heard. If there is something reasonable you can do to appease them, then do it. If, however, it is a matter of not wanting to eat or nap, or pickup toys then tell them what the consequences will be if they decide not to do those things. i.e. If you don't eat, you don't get dessert. (put dinner in the fridge for later in case they change their mind). i.e. If you don't clean up your toys, mommy will and you won't get to play with them this afternoon. Then, be consistent. They don't need to scream if they don't want to eat. They can just choose not to and they won't get dessert later. (they won't starve themselves). Good Luck!
    ANGIE409

    Answer by ANGIE409 at 4:41 PM on Jan. 19, 2009

  • Have a family meeting with your children and husband.  Let your children know how it makes you feel when they scream and cry for no reason.  Give them consequences for their actions and follow through. If your children can not sit politely during dinner time I would send them to their room for the night. Let them know that it is not okay to scream in the house, if they don't listen send them to their room until they can apologize and behave.  Let them know if they eat their dinner they may have a treat, if they behave maybe you will take them to the park the next day.

    mommiedear

    Answer by mommiedear at 7:34 PM on Jan. 19, 2009

  • these are all great answers and will try a few of them as they do really seem reasonable my biggest problem is being consistent i give in to easily i think and that's what the problem is ...thank you all for the great suggestions !

    Rachel311

    Answer by Rachel311 at 8:04 AM on Jan. 20, 2009

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