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I've never taken my kids to daycare, so I don't know what the policy is if a child isn't picked up by closing. This is a military town and I know that Marines work crazy hours. I babysit for a friend who is a Marine. He's also a single parent. When I started sitting for him, the agreement was from 6am to 6pm. Since I took them on, he's averaged about one day a week where he's had to come in early and dropped them off at 5am. Lately, I get texts from him saying that the CO says no one is allowed to leave until further notice and he's not coming to pick them up until anywhere between 6:30pm and 7:30pm.
I just feel like I'm being taken advantage of. It makes me wonder how he would be forced to handle things if he had his kids in a standard daycare. Most of the ones around here don't open until 6:30am, though there are a couple that open at 6am. General closing time is 6pm. Obviously, they don't cater to special military hours which leads me to believe that HE would be given special consideration from the military because he wouldn't be able to drop the kids off early or pick them up late.
Anyone have any insight?
edit: Hibbingmom, my hubby and I are going to have a chat with him today. Up until now, it's been flat rate per day. It was a verbal agreement. He said that he couldn't pay more than a certain amount because he just couldn't afford it and I was ok with that. Unfortunately, I'm the kind of person who will bend over backwards to help someone and I often wind up with a broken back. I really feel taken advantage of. It started off with him saying he'd either a) give me some extra money for groceries or b) giving me groceries (I feed the kids 3 meals a day, plus he typically eats dinner with us) and he hasn't, so all the food comes out of my own pocket. Then he's pushed up the time that he drops them off because he wants to beat the traffic, so instead of 6 they typically get here sometime between 5:30 and 5:45. This past Thursday he asked if I needed anything and I told him that we needed milk because I had just emptied the last gallon and hubby wouldn't be getting paid until Saturday. Hubby then joked about him bringing over snacks like jello or pudding. Guess which one he brought. Then he said he was going to be starting school in a couple months and wanted to drop them off at 5am 3 days a week when that came. Now he wants to go ahead and bring them early those 3 days because he's got a PFT coming up that he needs to prepare for. I'm planning on telling him that I'm going to switch to an hourly rate.
My biggest thing is that I know that he obviously wouldn't be able to do this if his children were in formal daycare, and yet I feel as if I have to be accomodating because it is JOB. If he doens't have a choice in it, then I don't have a choice in it.Answer Question
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