My daughter is 11mos. My fiance is 44 and I'm 29. I work, he doesn't and she's goes to daycare. Fight after fight, I always loose - which costs me 1K a month! Things like this are the norm at my house which turns into a mess (by him) which I'm expected to clean up when I come home, along with dinner, laundry, home businesses, etc. I can't take it any more. I'm miserable. I never see my friends and i'm falling out of love with him. Love him because he's her dad, but there's no physical attraction. My parents are trying to get me to leave (1+yrs..) HOW? How do I do that wihout ruining it for my daughter? We can't continue to fight the way we do...he's killed my spirit. Mental abuse is what I've termed it. Who tells they're financee she's gotten fat? Who turns off the heat on the pregnant girl? Or puts the dog before the baby? My finace...Please just be kind with your answers, I'm a mess :*(Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:35 PM on Jul. 18, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by Teens-n-Twins at 10:38 PM on Jul. 18, 2008
Answer by Sweet_nothings at 10:44 PM on Jul. 18, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 10:45 PM on Jul. 18, 2008
Your parents are on the right track. As far as ruining things for you daughter, here's what you'll ruin for her if you stay:
1. She'll never see what a loving relationship looks like.
2. She won't grow to expect accountability in the men she dates.
3. She won't understand that in marriage 2 people make a serious commitment to the family's growth: spiritually, emotionally & financially.
4. If hubby continues to demean you she'll learn that's okay too.
It sounds like you really don't need him at all. I bet you'll be surprised at how much money you have when you leave. Good luck.
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