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If your husband/SO did this, would it bother you, too?

So I am playing my computer game and my husband is also playing the game on his computer. We are both in the same group and this girl from my guild begins flirting with him and a few other people, but she seems to be particularly flirting with him. I let her know that he's my husband and she still continues to flirt with him. Later, I ask him to help me with something and he says he's busy with his own guild stuff. I asked him if it had anything to do with helping the girl that kept trying to chat with him and he said no. Then, several minutes later, I ask that girl to help me with something and we end up grouping again and lo and behold, he's already in group with her. Don't you find it odd that he's lying about it? I type out BUSTED and then I said bye to him and have fun with your new gf and then he runs upstairs and tries to explain that he's just helping her with the game. Then, he says, "You know what, I'm not gonna deal with this." So I ask him, so why would you have to lie about that? This girl isn't in his guild. He won't help his wife but he helps her??? Would you be upset too? Also, he has a history of flirting and getting caught and I'm just fed up with it. What would you do?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:22 AM on Mar. 2, 2012 in Relationships

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  • First of all, I am terribly sad that I know what you are talking about, my nerd of a DH used to pay those kinds of games but once we got serious, he stopped because it too up too much time. Anyway, anytime your DH lies to you, it's wrong, anytime your DH helps someone else over you, it's wrong
    JLS2388

    Answer by JLS2388 at 6:58 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • For me, it's a non-issue because my husband wouldn't flirt with anyone online or in real life. Maybe if you didn't get so jealous he wouldn't lie and maybe if you were a little less quick to temper he wouldn't be looking for a female who treats him nicely.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:46 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • But you have it backwards... I didn't get jealous first. He flirted first. So, you're saying you wouldn't get upset if your husband flirted? I have done nothing but supported this man. He has tried to get a job in years and I'm the only one that's been working. So treat him nicely? Yes I do. It's women like you that blame women for a guy's behavior that add salt to the wound. I doubt you really know if your man is flirting. There are ways to hide it well. Or maybe you're not that smart to even figure out that he's doing it behind your back.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 4:07 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • My husband is overly nice, and some people might take that as flirting, but he LOVES me and I don't really care. Women flirt with him all the time, but I know that I have nothing to worry about.
    AF4life

    Answer by AF4life at 4:28 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • Being nice and helpful is understandable, but why would you have to lie about it if it was innocent? My husband isn't the nice, helpful type and when someone says, "I want you, I need you" etc.... I don't think that's being "just helpful." It's crossing the line.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 4:31 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • Then tell him how you feel instead of telling us. If my DH was lying to me about stuff like that and doing something I thought was "crossing the line" I would sit down and have a long talk with him. In fact I have (not about this same subject) but I told him that if things didn't change that he was going to lose his family and so far that has been enough to make him see that he was in the wrong and needed to do something about it.
    AF4life

    Answer by AF4life at 4:33 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • I did many times already. He doesn't think he's doing anything wrong.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 4:37 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • WoW?
    Lornamay

    Answer by Lornamay at 4:57 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • Yes WoW
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 5:00 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

  • I play with my huband too. Yes, I would be pissed! The flirty stuff would make me laugh, but not helping me, or even worse, healing an idiot dps who thinks he's a tank, lol. I bet you could guess what our roles are :D
    Loyalty is what I have the biggest problem with, I mean if you're more loyal to complete strangers on a computer game than you are to me than why are we even together? kwim? We had 2 big arguements about it and have managed to resolve the issues.
    As far as the flirting goes, unless you're on vent you don't even really know what gender anyone is. My husband is always mistaken for a female. A dude could be flirting with your husband. Isn't that sorta funny?
    Lornamay

    Answer by Lornamay at 5:37 AM on Mar. 2, 2012

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