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I got engaged to a man who was divorced, we dated 6 months, got engaged and a month later I was pregnant, wasn't trying but it happened. He never had any children with his ex wife and they tried for years so assumed I had cheated and left me (I didn't). I moved out of state to move back in with my parents because I had also just lost my job. Within a month after he left me, he was back with his ex and they are planning on getting remarried. They apparently went to the doctor and she was told that she was the problem with conceiving, not him so now he believes that he is that father of the baby. He has said he is going to take me to court for full custody since I moved (which I checked with a lawyer before I moved, as long as I moved before the baby was born, as I did, I can move wherever I please and I don't have to move back and it won't effect custody except that he is over 1800 miles away). He thinks him and his SO are going to get 50/50 custody which since they live far away, that's not going to happen according to the attorney I met with when I move in with my parents (since any court order would be through this court, I wanted to see how this state handles things). Until the baby is school aged, the judge will not order her to be away from me more then 48 hours and since the courts are so backed up, we won't even get to court until after the baby is a year old. I think his SO thought of this as a way to get a baby she told me that she is going to be just as much a mother as I am, not gonna happen. I have told him he can come visit the baby in my home (since I am not letting him take her off until there is an order because he wouldn't have to bring her home) but his SO is not welcome. He also thinks him and his SO are going to come to the hosptial and see the baby (I guess he plans on coming when I deliver) and I told him is SO is NOT welcome in my hosptial room. What would you do in this situation?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:58 AM on Mar. 10, 2012 in Relationships
Answer by winterglow at 4:41 AM on Mar. 10, 2012
Answer by texasgurl33 at 6:39 AM on Mar. 10, 2012
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Answer by Syphon at 8:13 AM on Mar. 10, 2012
I totally agree with winterglow. Follow what she says. Also get OFF FACEBOOK! I would not have any communication with them at all except through an Attorney. If I were you, I would just Disappear in their eyes until after I have the baby & file for Child Support.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 8:13 AM on Mar. 10, 2012
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