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i am having a custody battle with my husband but seperated what do i do?

married but seperated what do i do over custody?

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Asked by lacy516 at 11:57 AM on Jan. 21, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • It depends if there is or was no physical abuse against the children then I say at least give him joint custody.

    Answer by MrsTGray at 12:04 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • If he is a good father then he deserves to be part of his kids lives, and they deserve him. I know it is hard for some moms to get over their egos when it comes to feeling that they are most important parent, but you have to remember that you made the choice to have kids with him and they are just as much a part of him and he is just as important to them as you are.

    Answer by PROGENITOR at 1:03 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • It also depends on how close you live to each other, i have joint legal custody with sole physical custody, with a parenting plan. Which means that there is a schedule set for visits, and their primary residence is with me. He gets them the 1st and 3rd weekend of every month and alternating holidays. We have one in school and live pretty far apart so the schedule works pretty good. Don't get confused on joint legal and joint physical custody, they are 2 different things. joint legal is sharing in decisions regarding school, religion etc. Joint physical means the children will have equal time with the both of you. You should ultimatly do whats in the Best Interests of Your Children.....

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:03 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • Joint physical does not mean equal! Bottom line, if you want your kids to have good relationship with their dad then you will work with him. Men almost always get the short end of the stick. Then women wonder why the bio dad isn't as involved in their kids' lives. Gee, I wonder? If you send the message that the father's role is inferior (and that is the message that is usually sent) then don't be surprised if he takes that message to heart.

    Answer by PROGENITOR at 2:34 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

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