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why is my boyfriend so involved with his childs mother

she allways calling for him, plus she calls me bitches and other bad names, and he dont say nothing to her, she told me that he still come to her place, and gives her money, buying her shoes and taking her out to eat, but he say shes lying about everything, i need to get to the bottom of this, or i should get out of this relationship


Asked by babydoll318 at 2:48 PM on Jan. 21, 2009 in Relationships

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  • buying her stuff is totally inappropriate!! Talking about their child is one thing...anything else is wrong! Go with your gut...if you think he is lying LEAVE him! There are other men out there with no kids so you can save yourself the drama because believe me....EX"S and KIDS =DRAMA!

    Answer by MammaMia72 at 3:06 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • He's so involved because it's his child's mother. That will never change. He has a connection to her for life. It's up to him the extent of his connection though.


    Answer by Navymama at 2:49 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • You can't have a healthy relationship without trust. If you can't trust him, then leave. If he's never given you a reason to distrust him, then you should trust him and leave it be.

    He has a permanent conection with her whether you like it or not. Either you trust him, or you don't. Figure that out then you'll know what to do.

    Answer by ReneeK3 at 2:51 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • You do what you need to do! If he is that involved in her life yet something is up! My Husband only deals with his ex when it is only involving there son together. LIke parent teacher confrences, concerts, or any activity he is in. Follow your gut! Good luck!

    Answer by jem102675 at 2:51 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • What do you want him to do? never talk to her again? They have a child together..

    Answer by ryanlynn at 2:53 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • well he dont suppose to taking her out and spending nights with her

    Answer by babydoll318 at 2:55 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • hes gott ahve some type of relationship with her because she is the mother of his child so they need to communicate... but i dont think its right thats hes not sticking up 4 you when she calls you bad names and if hes giving her money its probably for their kid but its not ok for him to take her out or buy things for his ex thta has nothing to do with their child... you should get to the bottom of it

    Answer by JBGmom at 3:02 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • if you have a problem with this relationship, end yours. they have a baby together. get over it and move on. if you are going to have him in your life, she will be in yours.

    Answer by mrsmostafa at 3:17 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • Get out now b/c it is not his baby's mother that is lying, he is the one who isn't telling the truth. You are his sideline chick and she is his main. Sorry.

    Answer by micrespo at 3:40 PM on Jan. 21, 2009

  • Believe what she is telling you.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:54 PM on Jan. 21, 2009