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She STILL hasn't actually gone on the potty!

I have been putting my 18 month old on the potty off and on for the last 6 months, but she still hasn't actually gone ON the potty. She understands what the potty is for, but she just wont go. Now we are starting to get serious about potty training, i just bought some panties last night and put her in those yesterday evening.. and put her on the potty every half hour. Is it normal for her to take awhile to actually USE the potty, or is it too soon? She gets excited about her panties, and she gets excited about sitting on the potty.. she just doesn't go.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:31 AM on Jan. 22, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • It sounds to me like she just isnt ready. 18 months is pretty early to train, unless she is showing signs that she is ready. Does she wake up in the morning dry, will she take off a wet/dirty diaper, does she ask to go? If she doesn't then why are you doing it now? If she does, it still sounds totally normal that she wont go on the potty just yet. It takes a lot of time and patience!
    Glowing4Caleb

    Answer by Glowing4Caleb at 11:35 AM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • Mine is 3 1/2 and still not using the potty. She will when she is ready. I am not pushing it.
    ChelsB

    Answer by ChelsB at 11:37 AM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • 18 months is really early. My two year old knows what it is but doesn't do it either. I don't believe in forcing these things.
    celticreverie

    Answer by celticreverie at 11:45 AM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • SIT HERE ON THE POTTY AND GIVE HER A SIPPY CUP OF WATER AND WAIT FOR HERE TO GO LET HER WATCH U GO SHE WILL SOON TELL U WHEN SHE IS READY DONT PUSH HER THEY JUST ARE NOT READY YET SOMETIMES MINES 3 IN JUNE AND WONT GO YET BUT IS GETING CLOSE FOR SHELL SAY NOW IM POOPING IN HER DIAPER AND SHELL TELL ME SHE WANTS TO BE CHANGED JUST TAKE THE TIME AND WAIT
    josalin

    Answer by josalin at 11:56 AM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • She sounds like she isn't ready. You have two choices:
    (1) Keep taking her often. This is the best approach when parents want to train before the child is interested. While she may be able to answer questions about what the potty is for and you may THINK she understands, she doesn't really get it. This is a big, complex thing you are asking her to master and even if she started peeing on the potty tomorrow it will be at least a year before she has mastered most of it.
    (2) Wait until she is interested. She likes the panties and sitting on the potty because you make a big fuss over her - not because she gets it or likes them for themselves.

    It's your choice. Starting now may mean less diapers but it means more work for you and more frustration for all of you. Waiting means more diapers but less work for you and generally less frustration for everyone.
    kaycee14

    Answer by kaycee14 at 12:22 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

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