Biggest secret

I'm not married but why don't you tell him about the credit card debt? Why are you not telling him, are you afraid of what his reaction might be? I;m just curious as to why so many married couples keep secrets when it comes to finances

I don't have any big secrets I've kept from my husband.

How can you live like that OP? Don't you live each day in fear that he's going to find out? Wouldn't it be better to get it out in the open and then deal with it instead of each day being poisoned by that anxiety?

I would say that there really is no big secret,, the only thing that comes to mind is I let my son have McDonalds more than he would like to,, about once a week for a treat,, but in your case,, sooner or later the cards will be maxed and then you are going to have a big problem,, if you don't want to tell him, you had better find away to cut expenses and get them paid down,, using cc's for day to day living is a sign that you don't have enough money coming into your household, My husband had over $20,000 in cc debt when we married (he didn't keep it from me) I would suggest you get to consumer credit counseling and quick,, these are scary times to be having cc debt.

i dont think i have anything actually. im pretty straight foward about things when it comes to him. even if its something hed be upset about id rather just tell him then have to keep up with a web of lies and guilt.

I don't hold anything from my dh.. i am very open with him

We don't have secrets. Secrets IMO destry a marriage because they destroy the trust/ bond between man and wife.

I definitely don't hold back...sometimes I tell more than he'd like to hear. When we first got together, he lied about some things and I tore him a new one quick. He needed to know that to make it work with me, you're not gonna hide things.

I'm right there too. Sometimes as a mom you have to make some decisions and money is one of them. Either I owe a little bit more than he knows or I save and keep it secret because he freaks about about putting some money away. And when we need it and I come up with some savings he's really happy! :)

Who understands them?