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what do i do when my 2 year asked for his brother (his 5 month od brother past away)

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r.i.proby213

Asked by r.i.proby213 at 1:57 PM on Jan. 22, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • First of all I want to say I am so Sorry to hear that! Tell him the truth! My daughter is now 3 and her grandfather died just before she was 2 and she still remembers him! She said just the other day, "My Grandpa died" WE said yes he did! Then I asked her if she remembers him she said "cookies". He taught her how to dunk cookies in milk. Memories are a beautiful thing to cherish!
    jem102675

    Answer by jem102675 at 2:01 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • omg i am so sorry for you. i remember my cousins mother died when she was young like that and she looked at me and asked for her mom. i don't think i even answered her i just didn't know what to say. hes in heaven if your religious. god need him in heaven. make it sugar coated but make sure he understands he isn't coming back. maybe a picture he can look at and hold would be a good idea.
    chagenue

    Answer by chagenue at 2:11 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • I'm very sorry for your loss. From what I've read, children at his age need concrete facts. Here's some good advice: http://www.nncc.org/Guidance/understand.death.html
    I'd also suggest getting a story book that you can read together that explains about death. Here are some suggested reads from Amazon:
    http://www.amazon.com/Tender-books-children-about-grief/lm/R15ZY9LOWPQJ6B/ref=cm_lmt_dtpa_f_1_rdssss0?pf_rd_p=253462201&pf_rd_s=listmania-center&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=082981180X&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=0QKFKWWT5Z55XQ2TNV14
    evwsquared

    Answer by evwsquared at 4:20 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

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