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How so you discipline a strong-willed child?

Nothing seems to work for my almost 4 year old very strong-willed and stubborn DS? I am at my wit's end! Help me please!

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amy94

Asked by amy94 at 2:35 PM on Jan. 22, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • In a lot of cases, this is just a phase. Be consistent and firm in your punishment/consequences, and never give up! Remember that you are responsible for your kids (and their actions) until they are adults!

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:41 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • You say nothing works, but what have you actually done? If he's strong willed, then what kind of choices do you give him? How much control is he allowed to have in his life? At 4, he probably wants to make a lot choices on his own - do you let him? Does he have a lot of opportunities to be heard in the family? Does he feel like his emotions are being considered? In what way is he strong-willed? Maybe he's spirited and high energy? Or is he extremely sensitive to his environment and has difficulties with changes or certain situations? Maybe he wants to always go go go and never slow down? It's especially hard if the parents are not the same as their children - learning how to communicate can be like learning a foreign language! More details would be needed to understand what exactly the difficulties are...have you read any books dealing with spirited kids?
    JPsMommy605

    Answer by JPsMommy605 at 3:38 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • Choose something and be consistent. Love and Logic Parenting books are great if you need some help with natural consequences and making him responsible for his own behavior.
    TweenAndTwinMom

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 3:56 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • TweenAndTwinMom is right on. Love and Logic Parenting is fantastic. It does take work as you have to let your children learn by the choices they make. You as a parent have to learn to be consistent and let your child take responsibility for there actions and decisions. But it works and once its in place ............ it makes your life sooooo much easier!

    mistynights234

    Answer by mistynights234 at 6:02 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

  • PS.........here is the website if you 'd like to look it over ~ http://www.loveandlogic.com/
    mistynights234

    Answer by mistynights234 at 6:03 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

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