So my dh's son and daughter come stay with us each weekend, they are 12 and 13 and I dread them coming over. They are horrible. They do as they please, make a mess, are rude, have taken my things, say horrible things to their father, swear at us and the list goes on. I want to tell him that I don't want them here unless they behave, but I am not the type of person to push people away. I told dh he needs to talk with them, but he says why bother because they won't listen to him anyway. How do I make this situation better? Is there anything I can do?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:11 PM on Jan. 23, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by MamiJaAyla at 3:10 PM on Jan. 24, 2009
Answer by Mommy2B04 at 6:19 PM on Jan. 23, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 6:22 PM on Jan. 23, 2009
Definitely say something. They are smart enough to know how far to push you both & it's obvious that they lack any respect. Talk it over with your DH first so that the two of you can come up with a plan. Your DH REALLY has to step up to the plate & set some ground rules for the two of you & how you want them to treat you. Make a plan to have a family meeting, You don't have to say anything except stand by your DH & give reassurance. Let them know straight on that their behavior will no longer be tolerated there will be consequence to pay. Hopefully their mother will stand by the rules that you have enforced in your home. If not, too bad..Your house, Your rules! It's not right for them to abuse the relationship that they COULD HAVE with you. Make a change so that their visits can be more pleasant. This is your home & you deserve to be happy & have their respect.
Answer by onespecialmom at 7:30 PM on Jan. 23, 2009
let the children know that you are happy they come and visit but they need to show you respect. Their father needs to have a talk with them in private before they arrive to your home on what is expected. You need to also need to remind the kids when they misbehave that their behavior is unacceptable. Children need some guidance and set limits. Good Luck!!
Answer by mommiedear at 8:34 PM on Jan. 23, 2009
Answer by mom2fivekids579 at 10:47 PM on Jan. 23, 2009
Answer by mrsrevjohnson at 2:20 AM on Jan. 24, 2009
Answer by Avarah at 2:40 AM on Jan. 24, 2009
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