My 16 year old and her boyfriend of 2 years are pregnant. They don't want to be parents my daughter wants me to adopt the baby but I told her thats just not going to happen that if she doesn't want to be a parent at this point in her life she will have to put the child up for adoption, I suggested to her an open adoption what do you all think?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 12:33 PM on Apr. 4, 2012 in Adoption
I agree with OTT.
As you decide on adoption with consideration that open or closed is part of the plan please plan on it being closed.Imagine it as closed.Only closed.I say this because there will be no recourse if the Adoptive Parents chose to close it.There are adoptions that do close because perhaps the birth parents misbehave but most often when they close because in a few years the adoptive parents tire of the obligation to a different mother.Many A.P.s work hard to be considerate of the birth family but if your grand child is adopted by one that doesn't honor their obligation there is nothing to be done.; For the birth mother if it closes it doesn't matter how many other ones remain open.So only choose adoption if it being closed is really ok for your daughter.Please don't make your decision concerning adoption based on the open or closed aspect because open is not legally enforceable.
Answer by drfink at 1:09 PM on Apr. 5, 2012Credits: 8421 Level 20 Adoption 101
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Answer by adopteeme at 8:30 AM on Apr. 7, 2012Credits: 2942 Level 16 Adoption Minor
Here is a link I think you should read: http://www.cafemom.com/group/4974/forums/read/15694307/_A_Special_Message_For_Baby_s_Grandparents_By_Diane_Turski
I want to piont out that this is not a decision that she can make BEFORE birth. She and baby need to recover from birth together without any pressure or coercion of others. Your daughter will NOT cease to be a mother if she surrenders her child, she will just be a mother living without her first born...........
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