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Do you think that one should be married before one has children?

I understand unwanted pregnancies, but do you think that one should marry instead of just having children with each other? Or do you feel that this sort of thing is just ole fashioned?

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35yoamom

Asked by 35yoamom at 4:48 PM on Apr. 8, 2012 in General Parenting

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  • Yes, I think people should be married before having children.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 4:55 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • I feel that I should be married before having a child, and was.


    However, I really have no opinion in regards to if others should or should not.

    pixie_trix

    Answer by pixie_trix at 4:57 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • I'm from the old school and would prefer my boys to be married before children.

    I have nothing against anyone that chooses not to.
    PMSMom10

    Answer by PMSMom10 at 5:00 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • Personally, yes, I do and I was married before I got pregnant with my first child. I feel that if you are committed enough to choose to have a child with someone then you should marry them. That's my personal preference but I don't judge those who aren't married and have children.
    tracylynnr67

    Answer by tracylynnr67 at 5:01 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • No. Marriage has nothing to do with having or raising children. My mother was married and divorced three times while I was growing up... It didn't make her any better a parent to be married...
    SabrinaMBowen

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 5:04 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • I wanted to be married before having children, and I was, though I had them early into the marriage. I however know that some situations just aren't right for everyone, and that is OK, I am not here to judge someone who doesn't want to be married but wants children (which is exactly what my best friend thinks she wants). The only thing I see a problem with is when someone has 3 or 4 different children with 3 or 4 different men.
    AF4life

    Answer by AF4life at 5:52 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • I personally don't care what other people do. I probably won't be married when I have another child, because I do not want to get married again, but I do want another child. That is just me though, to each their own.
    kmath

    Answer by kmath at 5:57 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • I find it hard to say yes when so many ppl live together.
    We got married 2 weeks befor dd was born. I wanted both our names the same on her b.c.
    Mrs.Elgert

    Answer by Mrs.Elgert at 6:38 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • no
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 7:01 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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  • I think it's a very good idea to get married before starting a family. I won't go any further than that, because each person's circumstances differ.
    SWasson

    Answer by SWasson at 7:08 PM on Apr. 8, 2012

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