Over time and time again I have hard birthmother's say that they were promised pictures, visits, contact, etc., only to be completely cut off.
My situation is different. My parents adopted my son. The promises were that I would be able to be a big part of his life, I could come and visit anytime I wanted to ,etc. The big one that was part of the agreement was that I would be put in the will if anything were to happen to my parents he would come back to me..
Well after a year of pleading and asking if they were going to make the will they decided not. Why, why would people LIE like that? It doesn't help that I completely regret the decision of my placing my son up for adoption, but they have to take away my last hope of ever having him be mine?
I am stable... I've always been stable. I'm a 21 year-old college student. I also work part-time. I am very responsible. So..?
Asked by Anonymous at 6:50 PM on Jan. 24, 2009 in Adoption
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Answer by Anonymous at 9:13 PM on Jan. 25, 2009
I think the answer is that while many paps go into the adoption believing they will be open, they are completely unprepared for what that means. I think it's just another way the adoption industry fails the adoption triad. (I realize there are some paps that agree to open adoption knowing full well they have no intention of keeping their promises, but I think most paps do).
To your situation I think it's because unlike most paps who have to go through the process and many are sent to classes and seminars about adoption, people who adopt a child of a relative usually don't. They nothing about adoption.
Answer by onethentwins at 9:13 PM on Jan. 25, 2009