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My husband has 2 kids and I have 4 but 2 are grown and don't live at home. My husband was in construction but he hurt his back in a car accident and can't work. He gets a small amount of disability, it pays for his child support, our phone bill and that's about it.
His ex wife is getting married and will be moving half an hour away so the kids will have to switch schools next year, they will be in 4th and 7th grade so the 4th grader will be in elementary school and the 7th grader will be going into JR. High so will be switching schools anyway.
Anyway, he just came back from dropping his kids off (he usually has all weekend but they are going to a wedding tomorrow that the older one is a junior bridesmaid for so she has the rehearsal dinner tonight. He said he talked to the kids on the way and they asked to move in with us. he said of course they can. I am pissed because he shouldn't have just agreed to that, he should have talked to their mom and talked to me before committing to anything. I called his ex wife and asked if she knew about this, she said no and she was mad too because she wants her kids to stay with her and she said he will have to take her to court for them to move in with us (and since she is not moving out of state she is allowed to move with them).
I sat down with him and tried to calmly discuss everything. First of all, we have a 3 bedroom home, I have a boy and a girl at home, he has 2 girls so 3 girls would be sharing one bedroom, second, he would have to fight his ex in court over it and we don't have the money for that. We are barely getting by right now, sure if they moved in we would get to keep our child support but she wouldn't have to pay anything for a while at least because he still owes almost 6 months worth of back child support from when he was in his accident. when he got in his accident, we paid her what we could but it wasn't near what he owed. Also, because I make just about all the money and I am the one who will have to work more to make ends meet, I feel like I should have final say if they move in. I am a nurse and I work full time already (at least 45 hours a week) I just can't do anymore and still see my kids.
After all that, my hubby is mad at me, he says I don't care about his kids, that's not true, if they didn't have a place to go, or their mom wasn't taking care of them, I don't care what I had to do, they would have a place here with us, but they do have a place to live with a good mom who is just moving 30 min away because she is getting married. I am just frustrated because he said, "it's just money" and I said, yeah, well then why don't you go make some. What would you do here?Answer Question
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