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My daughter just turned 18 and went to get a tattoo and when I say my heart hurts bc I feel she should had waited...I wish I could have stopped her from doing it. Then she did it on her wrist. It's not big. But still. I don't know what's the big rush. So upset

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:40 AM on Apr. 16, 2012 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • She is grown and now days tattoos are not looked down on in the work place unless you are covered with them and they arent tasteful. It sounds like she got a small one and a lot of people get one at 18.

    Answer by gemgem at 6:56 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • She is a grown woman and perfectly capable of making that choice. Being upset about it is not going to get you anywhere at all, so get over it. My mom was upset with me when I got my first, but she got over it quickly because I was almost 19 and it really was none of her business and she knew it. She said, "I think you are stupid for getting something put on your body permanently" and left it at that.

    Answer by AF4life at 7:37 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • She's an adult and can make her own choices. I see nothing wrong with tattoos.

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 9:46 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • Not much you can do. Everybody had to make their own mistakes. And who knows, maybe she'll be fond of it until the end of her days. But it's good you vented.

    Answer by Pucki at 5:44 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • Meh I got my first at 16. At least it's small but it's definitely not worth being upset over, unfortunately it's her body her choice.

    Answer by Mrs_Harsh at 7:34 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • This is what happens when they become legally grown. They can do certain things. Hope she does not try that " You can't tell me when to come home now bcause I am grow thing"
    My DD did that, I took her house key away from her. after that . Told her if she want back in the house she will come home when I say or do not come home tell I am awake. She want to act grown I will show her grown.

    Answer by louise2 at 7:37 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • She may have been thinking about it for a while before she turned 18. Now all you can do is hope she does not regret it someday.

    Answer by MooNFaeRie30 at 6:12 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • I understand how you feel. I think the legal age for a tattoo should be 25.. tattoo removal is expensive and by then you should have a better idea of what you want..


    Answer by Farrahann at 6:50 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • Hopefully, she will have a career where visible tattoos are not frowned upon

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:51 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

  • I understand why you are upset. I don't think you are controlling at all. I think you are just a mom who wants the best for her child.
    There's nothing that can be done about it now.
    Good luck to you both.

    Answer by meooma at 9:46 AM on Apr. 16, 2012

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