I am absolutely 100% certain that I want more children. I have 2 from previous relationships. He knew going in to the relationship that I loved being a mother and I was not done having children. He is an amazing parent to my 2 kids. However last night I brought up that I want to discuss having more children, he says he doesn't want any ever, apparently there are many reasons but the only one he mentioned was that he didn't want to bring children in to a world like this.
I feel absolutely torn because with every single fiber of my being I want more children, but I also know that I love him more than anything and dont want to live my life without him.
What would you do in this situation? Is it worth attempting to convince him to have a baby with me? How do I even go about it?
EDIT: Just to give some background and clarity to our situation. I met him when I was pregnant with my 1st at just 15, We were together for 7 years. We went through some tough times and separated... During our separation I was raped and became pregnant with my son. 18 months after he was born my now boyfriend came back in to existence and we immediately realized we had never fallen out of love. Our love is intensely strong and we are in this forever, he isn't just a boyfriend. We are a family. He loves children, he loves raising mine, he loves his nieces and nephews, he is better at raising children than any man I know or have ever known.
However, he doesnt want any because he feels that he doesnt want to bring more kids in to a world like this. He also just admitted that he doesnt think its fair to my 2 kids for us to have a child together because they will be jealous/resentful that he would be the babies actual father.Answer Question
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