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How do you deal with a 4 yr old who is exposing their private parts??

My 4 yr old son, has recently been exposing his private parts, as he is one of the younger kids in the neighborhood. The older kids have been coaxing him, and I dont know what to do to stop it, am i supposed to punish him? or just talk to him.? He has been told its wrong and they are HIS privates and no one elses but he doesnt seem to understand? Help!!

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Asked by nateNbrismom at 3:07 PM on Jul. 20, 2008 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • tell him its wrong & nasty and if he keeps doing it then its time to punish him.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:09 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • Keep him away from the older kids who are coaxing him!!

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:10 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • I agree with keeping him away from the older boys! I don't think that this is something to be punished. But rather -- give a reward for times that he is not doing it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:19 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • I'm all for rewarding good behavior. That being said, to reward him every time for not doing something he's not supposed to do anyways will just teach him that if you stop rewarding him everytime then he should just start doing it again so he can start getting rewarded for not doing it again.

    Answer by kier0724 at 3:30 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • This is definately not something that is okay and he should be punished. It is tricky though because you want to punish him for doing something he is not supposed to with out him thinking he is punished because his parts are a bad thing. Make sure if you choose to punish him he knows it is because you asked him to keep his privates to himself and he is being punished for not listening. Good luck

    Answer by StevensWife at 3:35 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • Dont tell him it is nasty as a previous poster will give him a complex! Keep telling him that his pp (private parts) are for him only and explain why. And tell him, that if he does expose himself he will not get to play outside for a certain period of time. Dont worry, he will outgrow it, kids that age are not ashamed of thier body as grownups are...they still feel the fun of innocence. And definately, if you know who the older kids are that coax him, you need to talk to thier parents.

    Answer by Autumnlove at 3:47 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • Definitely keep him away from those other children, and be consistent with your discipline. Don't make him ashamed of his privates, but he needs to know that showing them off is wrong.

    Answer by bluiidmommy at 5:25 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • the best way to do it is to tell him that he needs to not do it (of course) and tell him that big boys keep it in their underwear and pants and don't just show it to anyone who asks. i would also go and talk to the older kids parents and tell them exactly what the older kids are telling him and that you would love for it to stop.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:06 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • Keep him away from those older kids, and I don't agree with the other posters, if he keeps doing it, he needs to be punished because he's being defiant. If you don't nip this in the bud right now, it'll only get worse and he could get in trouble big time when he goes to school.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:01 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • whoever is coaxing him I believe is a HUGE PROBLEM and I would go to their parents! do not let him alone with any kids.

    His privates are nothing nasty or to be ashamed of but they are for him privately for the bathroom, to potty or when he takes a bath...

    Answer by TXdanielly at 11:55 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

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