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How do i get my 3 year old to stay in bed at night without bribing her?

We've tried everything from reading a book before bed, to no tv, to putting the child lock inside her room and letting her cry it out. The only thing that has worked for us so far, is bribing her that she can get a sticker on her wall tommorow before bedtime if she stays in bed. Not the greatest thing to do i'm sure but we've tried everything. Any suggestions?

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Asked by jennifer1983 at 10:42 AM on Jan. 26, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • STOP BRIBING HER! Step up and be the mom that you can be. YOU make the rules she DOESN"T. Take charge make her stay in her bed. Every time she gets up put her back and use earplugs(crying) and the first time she gets up say mommy loves's time for night night lay her back down and if she gets up again lay her right back down and don't say anything not a word not a peep. Be consistant! YOU can do it!!!:)

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:54 AM on Jan. 26, 2009

  • I agree with the PP. Just keep putting her in the bed.

    Answer by mom2Hayleigh at 1:02 PM on Jan. 26, 2009

  • ok problem with that is she is very stubborn, the first couple nights we tried putting her in bed and not going in there, she cried at her door for 45 minutes and wouldn't give up. Then finally daddy went in and put her back in bed and said goodnight and everything and she stayed in bed. But we can't do the 45 minute thing every night it just gets too overwhelming for both of us. And before we didn't have the lock on her door, we would put her back in bed 10 times before she would stay or shes got this new thing, where she'll stay quiet for the first half hour then shes right back up saying she needs to go potty, or she needs a tissue or etc. So any other ideas? Because we can't do the just keep putting her back in bed, shes too stubborn and we'd be up all night with her, like we have been in the past.

    Answer by jennifer1983 at 5:25 PM on Jan. 26, 2009

  • Saying she needs more hugs/kisses, tucked back in, a glass of water, go potty, etc is all excuses to stay up AND to keep you talking. The more you talk and negotiate with her, then shes not sleeping. I seen this on Nanny 911 or SuperNanny....forget which. But what everyone has suggested is really the best.........Just keep putting her back into bed and when they learn that you won't give in to them, they will accept it and sleep. It might take 1 week of horrible nights before they get it, every child is different.
    Stay consistent. And try everything that makes her tired and calm before bed. No tv or caffeine/sugar, etc.

    Answer by ladysylpher at 6:11 PM on Jan. 26, 2009

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