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what is a dv shelter like

my husband is abuseive i need to get out.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:10 PM on Jul. 20, 2008 in Relationships

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  • they help you at first your scared but dont give up and go back to you husband, cause you need to get out believe me thinds will only get worst i went through it with my first husband he always said things will change but only gotten worst. if you need a friend to get you throught this im here to try to help you the best i can cause i know what its like...

    Answer by jackie240 at 5:25 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • they help you get away, they help you with a place to stay till you can get a place on your own, they even help you get cust.of your children,resiting orders too.

    Answer by jackie240 at 5:30 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • It's best to contact one in your area and just ask what they offer in the way of help for someone who is in need. The best thing is that they have contacts everywhere that can help make a transition in leaving easier. If you don't have the number then call the national hotline and ask 1-800-799-7233 or go to and you can email then or read about what's up.

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:39 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

  • okay, here you go -- had this experience myself: First, make sure you check all your laws, especially if children are involved. Second, make sure that you have stockpiled as much cash as you possibly can. Third, you need allies. Go to your closest friend or relative and meet with them as often as possible, giving them the things a little at a time that you want stockpiled. When you have everything lined up the way you want it, call your local domestic violence hotline and setup a meet. They can help you and lead you through the process. Once you have gone to the domestic violence people in your area, there is no going back because it is a one-shot deal without further repercussions from the abuser. Make your meetings while he is at work or otherwise engaged so that he doesn't sneak up on you.

    Answer by aliciatakescare at 3:43 PM on Jul. 26, 2008

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