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The only reason that i am going to do thing anonymously is that i do not want to add to the issue in case there are parents here that live here....... My son was called a rapist today. The thing that happened was that my 13 year old and others were playing basketball here at home and a young lady (10) came later and began to play also. While playing she held the ball to her chest and was guarding it with her arms. My son reached in and grabbed the ball and in doing that brushed her breast area. Well she ran to dad and told him that my son grabbed her breast. I have no issue with a dad protecting his daughter BUT he told my son in front of me i don't care what you have to say..... Now the big brother went to school and began to spread this rumor and call my son a rapist. Ok YES the school knows and its being handled BUT during my conversation with the Principal he told me that calling my son that was not a offense that was punishable by expulsion. I did not ask for that i just wanted the rumor to stop. It just got me thinking rape is a HORRIBLE and VICIOUS attack against someone. Should that not be treated as such? Should the other child at LEAST be expected to apologize and make a statement to his peers that this was wrong?( There are 4 adults that back my son up) When did this word become so misused that its "oh its not that bad" to call someone?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:22 PM on Apr. 24, 2012 in Teens (13-17)

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  • no matter how many times- or in what forum- the other child apologizes or recants, your son's reputation has been destroyed.
    It Is That Bad.
    in the era of social media this may follow him for the rest of his life. the principal is wrong
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 9:34 PM on Apr. 24, 2012

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  • Not only the principal was wrong but so was the father. His reaction was a knee-jerk one and the least he could have done was to hear your son out. He needs to stop letting his daughter play with boys if she's going to get hysterical like this. Of course you should protect your children, of course you should warn them of the dangers of life but you should also be teaching them the difference between real danger and not.
    winterglow

    Answer by winterglow at 3:24 AM on Apr. 25, 2012

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  • Both the principal and the dad are wrong. I would never allow my daughter to be the only girl playing with a bunch of boys. Did your son apologize for the accidental touching? It seems it really gotten blown out of proportion. I would try to meet with the parents of this child and try to settle this. You don't want this to spread to social media and haunt your son forever when it was just a mistake.
    booklover545

    Answer by booklover545 at 12:59 PM on Apr. 25, 2012

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  • i agree with everyone else but i wanted to add thank you to the mix. i only have girls and daddy wants them to play sports and have fun. but since you brought this to my attention, i am going to talk to hubby about this and what his views are when it involves that word.
    i am so sorry about your troubles
    noel1978

    Answer by noel1978 at 1:09 PM on Apr. 25, 2012

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  • I am not saying the principal was right BUT the school can not punish the boy for anything he says that a teacher didn't hear or anything he says off of school property.
    Personally, I don't think a 10 year old girl should have been playing with 13 year old boys and I would tell her father if he is so protective, he should watch that.
    Your son CAN overcome this. Chances are, most people are going to not believe it anyway and those who do will hopefully see reason in time
    JLS2388

    Answer by JLS2388 at 5:25 AM on Apr. 27, 2012

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  • Well see the thing that i have real issue with is that the brother was standing there and now is the one that has started the problem..I was unable to approach the family.....it was going bad fast. The young lady the DAY this started no less then three times stood in front of my home and just giggled and laughed....I am still working on the school thing and i do think that i am going to pull him out next year as i do not feel like my son is safe there......
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 10:51 AM on Apr. 27, 2012

  • express yourself!!
    GlitteribonMom

    Answer by GlitteribonMom at 9:28 PM on May. 3, 2012

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  • Just as it is against the law to go into a public place and yell "FIRE", calling someone a rapist is, I think, considered battery. Check with the local cops and see what they have to say.
    robinkane

    Answer by robinkane at 10:14 AM on May. 7, 2012

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