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About two years ago my DH and I decided to stop drinking. We started drinking again in Dec. but only at home. Recently, he has traveled and he has had drinks with the guys. My DH can be a heavy drinker, but last time ( over 2 yrs ago) he drank heavy he was sloppy ( which caused the whole stop drinking). I fear he might do something stupid. I don't think he's drinking to get drunk maybe two, three drinks tops. Just bothers me! I started having anxiety attacks ever since his first trip. I think it's because I over think things, we honestly have a good life and I pray to God everyday nothing ruins it. I have not seen my husband drink out of control, he's traveling for his business. I'm sure he's maintaining a good appearance for his company, but I have my doubts what can happen. Should I tell him to stop drinking? I don't want to be a nagging wife or a controlling one. This is killing me inside, I get depressed, anxiety attacks and fear bad things and have bad thoughts. I shouldnt feel like this. I have not told him how I feel :-( I say it's my fault because it was my idea to bring a six pack home to drink. Back in July after that we didn't drink until Dec. that's why I think it's my fault.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:33 AM on Apr. 29, 2012 in Relationships
Nope- not your fault. If he's an alcoholic or has alcoholic tendencies, he has to be able to control his urges. You can't avoid being around alcohol for your whole life. If you entertain, you should be able to serve your guests. If he's out of town on business entertaining clients, he has to know his limits & be professional. Maybe you can attend an Al Anon meeting for more help. GL
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