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My mother in law keeps overstepping her role as my children's grandmother. I have tried to reason with her, tell her which things I am okay with her doing and what I am not. I've gone as far as specifically telling her "all I ask for you is to not do the following..." I'm trying to move passed this however I'm unsure if I can. When I speak my mind and explain how I feel she ends up feeling like the victim. I honestly feel like she wants to step in as their mother.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 5:08 PM on Apr. 30, 2012
Answer by BrawnwynII at 11:54 AM on Apr. 29, 2012
Answer by admckenzie at 12:36 PM on Apr. 29, 2012
Answer by DJDNY at 11:55 AM on Apr. 29, 2012
Hun, understand this.....grandmothers have already gone through the discipline and authority stage, grandchildren show up and they want to spoil, this is what grandparents are famous for but don't interpret this as though she wants to step in as the mother, she has already done that role, cut her some slack, and you provide your rules at home....and let their time with grandma be specially different....
Answer by older at 6:12 PM on Apr. 29, 2012
Answer by mandielynn23 at 12:11 PM on Apr. 29, 2012
Answer by Iloveclay at 7:36 AM on Apr. 30, 2012
Answer by meooma at 12:01 PM on Apr. 29, 2012
^^^admckenzie: I couldn't agree more! I absolutely adored my grandparents & feel like a big part of me has been missing since they passed away 3 yrs ago. I'm lucky to have had them in my life for as long as I did, and would never dream of denying that type of bond to my children or their grandparents. Remember, different doesn't equal wrong, it's just different.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 12:54 PM on Apr. 29, 2012
Answer by rkoloms at 2:35 PM on Apr. 29, 2012