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Check your blood pressure before you read what this "man of god" has to say to parents of possibly gay children.

Anti-Gay Pastor: Parents Must ‘Squash Like A Cockroach' The Gay Out Of Kids

by David Badash on May 1, 2012

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A virulently homophobic and anti-gay preacher on Sunday derided parents who don't "squash like a cockroach" the gay out of their children. Pastor Sean Harris told parents they are "authorized," and that he was "giving them a special dispensation" to attack their children. "Give them a good punch," and "crack that wrist," Harris told parents, if their four-year old boy, for example, "starts acting a little ‘girlish'." Pastor Harris added that parents should tell their four-year olds to "man up, son, get that dress off you get outside and dig a ditch because that's what boys do."

Pastor Harris, of the Berean Baptist Church in Fayetteville, North Carolina, was speaking in favor of North Carolina's Amendment One, which would write anti-gay discrimination directly into the constitution, and would define as the only legal relationship a marriage between one man and one woman. Amendment One would immediately make domestic violence victims ineligible for protection orders and would even remove children from their unmarried parents' health insurance.

"Can I make it any clearer? Dads, the second you see that son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up. Give them a good punch. OK? You're not going to act like that - you were made by God to be a male and you're going to be a male," Pastor Harris tells his parishioners in this audio, via Jeremy Hooper at Good As You.

"And when your daughter starts acting too ‘butch,' you rein her in. And you say, ‘Oh no. Oh no, sweetheart. You can play sports. Play ‘em, play ‘em to the glory of God, but sometimes you're going to act like a girl and talk like a girl and talk like a girl, and smell like a girl, and that means you're going to be beautiful, you're going to be attractive, you're going to dress yourself up'."

Note: I'm not knowledgeable on North Carolina law, but I have to wonder if parents would be subject to arrest if they followed Pastor Harris' directions.

Hooper, whose done an excellent job in the fight against Amendment One, offers the above audio, and the one below, and writes:

Did you miss "Marriage Sunday," the day (this past Sun.) that the Vote For Marriage NC coalition set aside and told pastors to use their campaign materials in order to preach in favor of Amendment 1? Well here, let Berean Baptist Church's Sean Harris give you a taste of what you missed:

Via Pastor Harris' Berean Baptist Church website:

Sean Harris is the Senior Pastor of Berean Baptist Church in Fayetteville, NC. He is Berean's fourth pastor in its 40 plus years of existence. Berean called Sean to be the Senior Pastor in March of 2006.

His responsibilities include the preaching and teaching the Word of God, casting the vision for the ministry, the leadership of staff and faculty members, administration of Berean Baptist Academy, communication with church members, and personal discipleship.

Pastor preaches during the worship services on Sunday mornings and evenings and teaches the church's pre-membership class. He also teaches at the Academy. Pastor also provides audio commentaries on news worthy items throughout the week for



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Asked by jsbenkert at 8:11 AM on May. 2, 2012 in Religious Debate

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  • More disturbing then his rant is the fact that he has followers.


    Answer by emptynstr at 10:03 AM on May. 2, 2012

  • *facepalm* Gee thanks moron! Like we didn't have enough to be embarrassed about in North Carolina.

    How about we "punch the stupid out of him"? How hard do you think we would have to hit???

    Answer by SpiritedWitch at 8:45 AM on May. 2, 2012

  • I was *just* reading a few articles on child abuse and even with deaths associated with "exorcisms" connected to "witchcraft" accusations of children and teens for everything from autism to homosexuality to normal misbehavior.  This guy is sliding down that slippery slope of being so "Christian" that he's forgetting Christ's message...and he's just an ass--I love how he tried to duck out of responsibility for his comments by saying they were "a joke".

    I thought this response was really well done.


    Answer by thalassa at 9:13 AM on May. 2, 2012

  • OK I couldn't even get through the first paragraph - my blood is boiling. That's fucking crazy, and if I'm going to punch anyone, it will be THAT man, in his dick, hard enough so he doesn't have to worry about having his own gay kids.

    Answer by figaro8895 at 9:23 AM on May. 2, 2012

  • Yet still again another Christian idiot. I'm a christian, but these kinds of fanatical beliefs are not. He's an embarrassment to my faith.


    Answer by meooma at 8:15 AM on May. 2, 2012

  • Oh gosh, I have no words. And live in that part of NC:( So, so, so sad. If there were any children in church to hear this man speak, I think that constitutes as abuse.
    To advise parents to physically attack their kids, is abuse. To have such hatred towards a group of people to want to take action against kids is abuse and sick.
    I don't know what else to say.

    Answer by sahmamax2 at 10:58 AM on May. 2, 2012

  • The next best thing to outright supporting this asshole is trying to excuse him by saying "he's just an exception" or "he's only one". There are a lot of exceptions out there, and this particular exception leads an entire congregation full of like minded people. Are they all exceptions? Do they each get a free pass on their behavior because they're only "one"? If people spent a little more time addressing the actual issues, and a little less time trying to cover their own ass by focusing more on distancing than denouncing, perhaps these "exceptions" which seem to be all over the place (especially in NC, what's up with that?) would get the message that their own community doesn't accept or agree with their behavior.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 12:54 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • absolutely humanity.

    Answer by meooma at 8:26 AM on May. 2, 2012

  • Disgusting that he feels that way and worse that he preaches it and tells others to beleive the same. And the fact that people still go to that church and buy into that crap is just sad : (

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 8:34 AM on May. 2, 2012

  • Let's "squash" him like s fucking cockroach

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 9:25 AM on May. 2, 2012

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