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What are you lo's relationship with one another???

My ds is 3 will be 4 in Oct.. My dd is 7 months.. and everyday is something new but the love they have for eachother is so heartfelt... my dd looks at ds like he is the world.. and ds just want to protect her and make her happy... i know this wont last forever so I'm enjoying it while it lasts.

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mommys2cupcakes

Asked by mommys2cupcakes at 1:36 PM on May. 2, 2012 in General Parenting

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  • wow, ten days apart. that's funny! my 10 & 7yo get into a lot of disagreements, but lord help someone who is messing with the one of them! there was a kid messing with my 7yo and my 10 yo got in the middle of it. she did something to him to make him scream, me and the other mother came running over just in time to hear, "nobody but me is allowed to hit her! she's my sister not yours!" they were 7 and 4 when that happened. truthfully i have never seen her so mad like that, that the mother didn't say a word she just grabbed her son and left the park.
    noel1978

    Answer by noel1978 at 1:54 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • have to ask, when in oct? rye will be 5 on the 3. and it depends, that's how both her sisters act to her, but on somedays, my older two don't get along! but most the time they do.
    noel1978

    Answer by noel1978 at 1:42 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • DD is 7 and DS is almost 5 but has Moderate Autism...

    DS relationship to his sister is much different than her relationship with him, if that makes any sense. He sees her as a playmate at times and other times just another presence in the house... someone who feeds him form time to time or helps him get things.
    DD sees him as a playmate sometimes and a hindrance at other times. I think there are times where her resentment towards the amount of care and attention he requires is very strong and very real. We try to work through it and help her to better understand and we try very hard not to, too often require her to 'take care of him' outside of typical sibling things. There really is a fine line there. Sometimes I have to step back and ask myself 'Is it really 'fair' to ask Hattie to watch her brother at the indoor playground for a while...or am I just trying to use her as a babysitter...'
    NotTooWorried

    Answer by NotTooWorried at 2:16 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • We are currently working with a family counselor to help us all work better together and to help us understand how our family dynamic 'needs' to be in order to be healthy for both children AND foster a good sibling relationship.
    NotTooWorried

    Answer by NotTooWorried at 2:17 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • To the OP, I wanted to say that it can last. Nothing is ever 100% positive/loving (feelings always change), but if you allow their feelings to be what they are in each moment without disallowing the "bad" stuff as unacceptable (resentment, negativity, even hatred), then you can foster a strong & pure bond.

    My oldest was 4 when my twins were born (her baby brothers.)

    She now is 8, and they are 3.5

    Lots of mutual delight, appreciation, kindness. Lots of other stuff, too, but mostly expressed (versus "acted out") and when they have that freedom to HAVE their feelings, they can move through them & find resolution, and love.

    I would say they really feel the love, most of the time. The big sis celebrates her brothers in a way that is very special to us (her dad & me) and very enjoyable (as a parent) to witness. The twin bond is magical & astonishing. And their relationship to their big sister is no less important or immediate.
    girlwithC

    Answer by girlwithC at 5:34 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • They may fight and argue at home, but away from home they protect each other.
    meooma

    Answer by meooma at 1:38 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • But it will last forever!!!!!! you will go through a stage of fights and hate, but in the end they will be a bond too big to break, I have three of them and now as adults they are there for each other every step of the way!!!!!!!!!!!
    older

    Answer by older at 1:40 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • My almost 11yo dd and 12 yo ds love each other to pieces. They fight of course, but they also play together so well and always have been an endless source of entertainment for each other. My 21 month old dd and 3 yo ds are the same way - but my little ds is just learning how to play with his little sissy and I love watching him teach her how to play trains or do the puzzles. It's great!
    The two little ones think every thing the older ones do is utterly fascinating.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 1:45 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • My son is 3.5 years older than my daughter. She thinks the world revolves around him. The first words out of his mouth at the hospital were: Can I hold my baby sister now? They can be the best of friends, they can also be the worst of enemies. BUT, no matter how much they bicker and fight they will not allow anyone to hurt the other.

    A few months ago my son was willing to take on 4 kids as old or older than him (he's 8 but looks like he's 10) to protect his sister.
    Rosehawk

    Answer by Rosehawk at 1:49 PM on May. 2, 2012

  • My son will 9 October 15th.
    Rosehawk

    Answer by Rosehawk at 1:51 PM on May. 2, 2012

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