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How did you tell your kids your moving to another state?

We are moving over the summer and my parents and I haven't told my daughter yet?? She knew they were looking at houses up near were my aunt lives in the Pocanos but we said maybe..well it offical and tonight we are going to tell her ..we know there is going to be tears but I know I'm going to cry too.

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MadisMomma1969

Asked by MadisMomma1969 at 9:22 AM on May. 4, 2012 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • I would let her know as soon as possible before she starts making summer plans with her friends, that will make it even harder to leave
    loveMYkids5488

    Answer by loveMYkids5488 at 2:28 AM on May. 6, 2012

  • Nothing better than the truth hun, explain whatever situation, they will adjust!
    older

    Answer by older at 1:20 PM on May. 5, 2012

  • Mine are almost 4 and 6. I have been talking about and explaining about our new move, we have been talking about we are going to decorate their bedrooms. I have also showed them pics of the house and the yard and explained about a bunch of the stuff we can do when we get there.
    coala

    Answer by coala at 2:19 PM on May. 4, 2012

  • Do it sooner rather than later. I was 9 when my dad moved out of his parent's place to one of the rental houses they owned. I don't remember him telling me anything or letting me be a part of the process at all. Just one day I had to try and make new friends, and I had to go to a new school. HE did it in the summer, but it didn't seem to help much.

    Tell her straight up. Sweetie, we're moving to ABC because of XYZ. Find things for her to help with and let her be as much a part of everything as you can.
    Rosehawk

    Answer by Rosehawk at 10:54 AM on May. 4, 2012

  • My parents moved our family when I was 10, right before school started. When they told us they got out a map and showed us where we were moving to. They reassured us we would come back to visit - and we did several times/year. Make sure your son/daughter gets her friends email/street addresses so they can keep in touch.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 10:39 AM on May. 4, 2012

  • we have not moved, but we have thought about it, talked about it, and checked out where we thought about moving to - as a family. we asked our kids' opinions from the start, even before going to visit. they were aware the whole time, we knew their feelings on it. i would never buy a house and plan a move, even within the same small town, without including my kids.
    annanonnymommy

    Answer by annanonnymommy at 10:03 AM on May. 4, 2012

  • The day I decided to move I told them. It took several months but they were aware of each step. Were they happy - NO. They were teenager and we were moving far away from everything and everyone they had ever known. Did they adjust - 1 did, 1 didn't, but they are grown men now.
    meooma

    Answer by meooma at 9:33 AM on May. 4, 2012

  • Go over again the reasons for the move....why you were looking at homes there. If it isn't too far away talk about having friends come and visit and doing sleepovers. Get information on activities and things to do in the area to have as personal backup information for when you get to the area. GL
    whitepeppers

    Answer by whitepeppers at 9:33 AM on May. 4, 2012

  • technically? we included him in the plans from day 1.
    dullscissors

    Answer by dullscissors at 9:28 AM on May. 4, 2012

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