First of all, I love my husband. I do. It's not because I don't love him that I don't want to be married to him anymore, it's because I'm not happy with him. We have been having trouble for the last five years with our marriage. It's gotten better but it's still rocky. I feel like we are constantly arguing about trust and he constantly feels that he has to track my every move so I don't stray from him. (I strayed once, emotionally, after he started slipping away from me with his PTSD). I know that happiness is probably a selfish thing to want to have. I know that it's going to be hard on the kids (we have two) and I'm also terrified about whether or not I can make it on my own without him. But I haven't been happy for a long time. I know I don't make him happy either. He says I do, but if I made him happy he wouldn't constantly be worried about me or trying to fix me to be the better wife for him. He's improved to try to be a better husband for me, but he still falls back on not participating with anything. He doesn't engage with my feelings. He doesn't even realize how sad I have been these last couple of weeks. And when I try to talk to him about it he just tells me that the feelings I have aren't real. Maybe they're not real but they're causing a problem for me.
I need help! Advice!
Asked by Anonymous at 2:40 PM on May. 5, 2012 in Relationships
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