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How do you connect with an 11 year old step son? All he wants to do is play on his laptop or play video games. He doesn't like to join in on family game night unless his father makes him. He likes to keep to himself.

We have dance offs, but he's too shy to dance because he feels he can't. When we show him moves he still refuses.

Any suggestions?

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Asked by SeedsOfLove at 3:39 PM on Jan. 27, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • try to get on his level. have you tried playing games that an 11 year old would like to play?

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:40 PM on Jan. 27, 2009

  • We have Clue, Connect Four, Life, Uno, Uno Spin, Kids Monopoly, Monopoly, many card games, Sorry, You've Been Sentenced...just to name a few.

    Any more suggestions on games?

    Answer by SeedsOfLove at 3:45 PM on Jan. 27, 2009

  • Center some of your family game nights around things you know he likes, if it's video games then find some that can involve the family. Be patient, if he isn't used to it he will take some time getting comfortable with it.

    Answer by luckysevenwow at 7:42 PM on Jan. 27, 2009

  • Luckysevenwow,

    Thank you for the advice. Do you know of any family video games that aren't too babyish?

    Answer by SeedsOfLove at 10:56 AM on Jan. 29, 2009

  • Play the video games or find out what is doing on the net & find things like it.

    Answer by Wiggles_GA at 1:00 AM on Jan. 31, 2009

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