I have adopted adorable twin boys, who are now 6, and I have had them since birth. I can't help but notice that there seems to be quite a few negative feelings about their adoption experiences. I just want to know what it is about the adoption that has you so down? What can I do for my children so that they grow up feeling that, in their situation, adoption really was the best thing that could have happened? (Their bdad is mentally ill, bmom VERY unstable and was abusive to previous children.) How do I help them avoid such feelings of negativity when they grow up? How can I help them when they want to meet bparents so they get what their looking for without being taken advantage of by the bparents?Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 12:12 AM on Jul. 21, 2008
Answer by adopteeme at 4:46 AM on Jul. 21, 2008
Answer by adopteeme at 4:59 AM on Jul. 21, 2008
Answer by lawmom623 at 9:51 AM on Jul. 21, 2008
Answer by lawmom623 at 9:55 AM on Jul. 21, 2008
Answer by addzoomom at 1:15 PM on Jul. 22, 2008
Answer by OrcaQueen at 1:37 AM on Jul. 24, 2008
Answer by Mers1803 at 2:45 AM on Aug. 1, 2008
The best thing to do is be honest. Don't lie to your kids about why they were put up for adoption or lie about their birth parents. They will eventually find out.
I was adopted when I was 5 years old and my brother was 1 yr old. I was lied to constantly about who my birth parents were and why I was taken from them and all that. When I was pregnant with my first son, I finally found my birth mother. We have the best relationship ever. I only wish that I could have met my birth father, but he died in 1998. Nothing that I was told about my birth parents was true. I have other reasons too as to why I hate the people that adopted me. I have no communication with them and my birth mother is in the process of adopting me back. I would have been better off with her and my father.
So, in my opinion, adoption is NOT always the best option.
Answer by boizmom at 9:11 PM on Aug. 4, 2008