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Does the government redefining marriage have any effect on the reality of Christian marriage?

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Asked by -Eilish- at 3:39 PM on May. 11, 2012 in Religious Debate

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  • Where was marriage defined by the government in the first place (prior to DOMA, that is)?  It would have to have been defined before it could be redefined, and the institution of marriage has varied throughout history, so has never had one single "definition" outside of various religions who each have their own definitions.

    That said, marriage itself, as a contract, has no bearing on "Christian marriage".  For that matter, other people's relationships should really have no bearing on "Christian marriage".  Did Mormons' polygamy affect the marriages of people who weren't Mormon?  Does polygamy within Islam affect "Christian marriage"?  No?  Then how could same-sex marriage have any affect on "Christian marriage"? 


    Answer by jsbenkert at 4:04 PM on May. 11, 2012

  • The government isn't redefining anything, but no, government continuing to issue marriage licenses to people who request them, regardless of whether or not they believe in the rules in someone's religious book, does not do anything to a Christian marriage.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 3:41 PM on May. 11, 2012

  • The marriage license has ZERO to do with commitment and everything to do with what happens if the contract is broken.

    No, the license is what gives the spouse the property of someone who dies, gives them the right to decide how the person is buried, even the right to decide whether or not they should be on life support or a feeding tube. It automatically confers parenthood of any child born in the marriage without an adoption or blood test. It even supersedes blood relations on a variety of matters. What happens if the marriage ends is the least of the things it addresses.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 4:55 PM on May. 11, 2012

  • A marriage license has nothing to do with the Bible, but everything to do with commitment...the fact of the matter is that the rights you enjoy with your license are not enjoyed by all....and this is what it should be about, equality! not only God.

    Answer by older at 4:46 PM on May. 11, 2012

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    Answer by MamaK88 at 6:02 PM on May. 11, 2012

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    Answer by MamaK88 at 5:59 PM on May. 11, 2012

  • Is is just me, or is there someone here today who is making less sense than usual?

    Anyway, to answer the OP, again it comes down to wanting the gov't to control us, that's all there is to it.

    The gov't isn't so much redefining marriage as it is allowing all who want a marriage license the ability to obtain one. That being said, it has no impact on a Christian marriage whatsoever. The person is correct. The sanctity of marriage comes from God. If a person's faith in God and their marriage is so weak that both are threatened by the marriage of another couple... well that's a personal problem, not a political issue.

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 4:36 PM on May. 11, 2012

  • As I have pointed out several times, marriage is NOT a christian institution. It is a human institution. There are marriage rituals in almost every culture on earth, including in remote tribes who have never heard of christianity. We have a need to connect and bond with another person and to feel that we belong to them as much as they belong to us. It has nothing to do with gods. Marriage in the bible was the simple act of a man (never a woman) taking the woman he wants to his bed. Once the sex act was done, the marriage was accomplished. There were no preachers, no churches, no banquets, no $3,000 dresses. Gay marriage will have exactly zero effect on so-called "christian marriages." It will simply give our fellow citizens the rights we have enjoyed from being committed to the person we love. The only thing christians will be missing is the sense of control they seem to need over other people's lives.

    Answer by witchqueen at 8:26 PM on May. 11, 2012

  • The government isn't redefining anything, IMO. Though whatever *anyone* calls marriage, or does in their own relationships, none of it has any effect on my marriage with my husband, nor should it effect anyone's marriage. Our marriages are what WE make of them, they are as holy and sanctified as WE make them. My marriage with my husband is holy and sacred because of what WE believe about it and put into it, and nothing - not the gay couple wanting to get married to, or the man who's been divorced and remarried nine times, or the man who beats his wife, or the couple who practice an open marriage or engage in multiple spouses, etc, etc - has ANY effect on what exists between myself and my husband. It is what it is because of what WE share, what it means to us, and because we believe God made us for each other. WE are the only ones who could effect it, either positively or negatively. No one else can.

    Answer by bandgeek521 at 5:34 PM on May. 11, 2012

  • are you suggesting that there is something Christian about the marriage license?

    I'm pretty sure she was referring to the collapsed answer...

    Answer by NotPanicking at 4:42 PM on May. 11, 2012

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