So fed up

I've decided that it would be best for me and the kids to leave asap their father. I came home this morning from work to a really messy house,husband got up saw me cleaning then went back to bed.
He gets anal when I even suggest he do dishes and help out around the house. He told me and I quote,"I shouldn't have to do anything around here I pay the bills' To which I replied back I work fulltime and come home clean,take care of the kids,errands,grocery shopping,and even cooking meals. He tries to pin everything on his 14 yr old daughter and then makes her feel bad if something isn't done while the boys ages 10-13-16 sit on theirs asses acting just like their dad. I can't take his bullshit anymore,and he's always rubbing it in that he pays the bills. I make 9.25 an hour I'm looking for a better job,in the meantime he sits around self employed not working,or even looking for work,hasn't filed his taxes in 14 years!! He refuses to get his act together even with me pleading and begging. I've been wanting to go back to school to get my diploma or ged and I get no support from him. Shouldn't he plan things with the kids to make mothers day and nice day for me? I do it for him. Shouldn't a husband pitch in to help? Shouldn't he be responsible? I don't really care to be near him anymore,he makes me so angry. He's 56 yrs old and stubborn and thick headed. I just feel like maybe my life would be better without him. I feel like life is holding back something from me and the kids because were with him. You know he never talks to his kids,he just yells at him or argues opinions like his opinion over theirs doesn't count. My daughter will hug him and he stands their with his hands down to his side,wtf is up with that? He doesn't reach out to me unless it's time for him to get some,I'm not his room mate I'm his wife and I would like him to hold my hand or come up and hug me without requiring anything of it. He won't do any counseling because then that's telling people our business,and that would take away from his wrestling he watches,and his playtime on the computer. So I need to move on and make a new plan. I'm tired of the battle.

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