Ok ya'll, just bear with me, heres a little back ground... Back in mid-March, my FIL was put into the hospital due to a aortic tear in the upper portion of his heart. He was put into ICU and had to get a tracheotomy to help him breathe better. Well lately he seems to be getting better and his doc decides he good enough to be put into select care. The 3x after he is put into select care something bad happens and hes put back into ICU. The 1st was a feeding tube got loose and the nurse on 3rd shift ignored his complaint of pain in his stomach and the 1st shift nurse saw what was wrong and they had to perform an emergency surgery to clear out the food that all around his insides. 2 other times something else goes wrong. So my dh is stressed about that. 2x times his dad almost dies. Now his brother wants to get a DNR signed, just in case.
Then my dh got a job, while we were thankful he was able to get a job, the catch was he had to work 7 days a week to even get 30 hrs. Sunday through Thursday he gets paid $9.25 an hr and Fridays and Saturday its $11.50 an hr. The 2nd night of work is when his dad was put into the hospital and he called off, and the next night he found out he was written up. If my dh gets more then 20 pts in a year, he will be fired. The write up cost him 4 pts. Then he finds out, when you call off if you are sick, or in an emergency whatever, you are written up. If you are gone for more then a day then you need a note from the doctor, but the points still stay. How fucked up is that?
So now here is my problem, he has been been working 7 days a week, he schedule is from 8pm to 1am Sunday thru Thursday, 8pm -2am Friday and Saturday. He gets home at about 2am thru the week, 3am on the weekends. Then he is back up at 11am, and at the hospital everyday, I mean everyday until 5pm then he comes home to eat dinner, relax then go to work. He has done every day since March. Our 3 yr old daughter barely gets to see him except for about an hr at night and he is tired and she wants to play with him. He is heading towards a break down, I can see it, I have been there done that, I have told him as such, he ignores me, or we fight. I ask him to just spend a few minutes with our dd, don't have to be all day, an hr or so would make her happy. I have forgot what sex felt like. He get grouchy as a bear with a thorn in his paw. We need things done here at home. Examples like we need breaks on my car, the oil changed, the grass mowed.
I don't know how do any of that, and its way to expensive for us to get someone to do it, and I am allergic to grass. And yes that sucks soooooooo bad! I am trying to help, but I don't know how. Please someone give me advice...anything!!!
Sorry its so long..
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