My dd will turn 18 about a month and a half before she leaves for college. I know legally she is considered an adult, but since she will still live here until college, and we do like to maintain a little bit of control, what kinds of limits would be reasonable to set. I am one to not sleep until my children are home safely. She has a job, uses our car...pays for 1/2 the ins and the most of the gas. She also has a boyfriend that she is quite serious about who will not graduate until next year. She does not drink or do drugs, but has been intimate with said bf. (as safely as possible for a teen) and will be legally able to drive him in our car...
I also have a 13 year old at home.
I just do not know what to expect! I don't want to wait up past 11 to be honest...lol.
And what about when the college kid comes home for the weekend? How did you handle this "stage"??
Thank you so much for any thoughts!
Asked by Anonymous at 7:55 AM on May. 15, 2012 in Adult Children (18+)
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Answer by whitepeppers at 8:55 AM on May. 15, 2012
I guess "adult" is a term with seems arbitrarily bestowed upon kids when they turn 18.
You have to look at it this way.... even though she is young she is an adult in societies eyes @ 18 and will be expected to act like one and function independently at college. If you hold the reins to tight right now and don't give her a taste of that kind of responsibility she might not know how to handle it once she is away at school. I've seen that way to often by parents that must remain in control or have trouble letting a child "grow up". You have to find the balance that works in your home... but do keep this in mind ;o). Good luck.
Answer by Crafty26 at 9:10 AM on May. 15, 2012