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Trying to discipline a toddler that doesn't care

I'm kind of at my wits end since telling him not to do things does nothing, he's so bad at paying attention we had his hearing tested. Time out doesn't work since he climbs right out of his crib(chairs don't work at all).

Any ideas? I just don't want him to destroy any more things(no putting them up doesn't help he just climbs to them and I'm pregnant and can't keep up with him).

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:55 PM on May. 15, 2012 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • you have to keep putting him back in time out. watch a couple episodes of supernanny, it helped me.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:59 PM on May. 15, 2012

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  • It's not that he doesn't care, it's more that he has never been taught the rules. You need to implement them and consistently use them. Decide on the discipline method you will be using and stick to it.

    m-avi

    Answer by m-avi at 6:02 PM on May. 15, 2012

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  • One thing to do would be lower your expectations. He's very very young yet. He doesn't care because he's a toddler. And time out will not likely be successful at this age.

    Key for young children such as your son is to redirect inappropriate behavior. A firm no and redirection done over and over will eventually get through to him. You could put him in his room with the door closed for time out, removing all toys that he may play with (and making sure that he's safe in there).

    Another mom with a very young child here has started the counting game; She corrects the behavior and then, if it continues, she counts 1 2, ect. If she gets to five, her daughter goes to time out.
    BrawnwynII

    Answer by BrawnwynII at 6:06 PM on May. 15, 2012

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  • How old?
    meooma

    Answer by meooma at 6:07 PM on May. 15, 2012

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  • You have to start by making him care. In my experience, that means inflicting a little bit of pain on his rear end. With some children, it is the only thing that works. Don't think of it as punishment for what he is doing. Think of it as training him to be respectful and obedient to his parents. It's training for the future, and it's even more important now that you are expecting another child. The second one learns from the first, so training the second one will be much easier. Tell him one time what you expect, and then tell him what the consequences will be if he doesn't give heed. Don't count, don't threaten, and don't delay. Immediate follow-through is key. You will probably see improvement in a very short amount of time.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 6:08 PM on May. 15, 2012

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  • He's 2
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:08 PM on May. 15, 2012

  • 2 is too young. Redirect and use time-in.
    Mom2Just1Kiddo

    Answer by Mom2Just1Kiddo at 6:18 PM on May. 15, 2012

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  • Nanny I really don't understand your obsession with spanking. Every single person who comes here with a discipline question you say "spank".

    You don't even ask how old the kid is. If he was one would you tell her to spank him? What age is too young in your mind to spank kids?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:20 PM on May. 15, 2012

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  • We've had the same rules and have been trying since he was 1. I say no and he might look at me usually he doesn't,I spank him he goes right back to what he was doing,if I put him in time out he climbs out repeatedly(I think his record is 30 times).

    I don't think this is a case of him not having rules or consistence.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:40 PM on May. 15, 2012

  • He won't be redirected,already tried quite a few times.
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:42 PM on May. 15, 2012

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