He is allowed to have a girlfriend, but no dating, unless it's in a big group. We would like to postpone one on one dating until about 16. He can text some, but we are pretty strict about it not being too much, too often, and do check the phone. We set these limits out there at least a year ago. He is in all honors classes, on 2 baseball teams, in band and in jazz band, and very busy. He has an amazing mind...very intelligent. He is also not into much drama, probably because he has seen his sister get very emotional with boyfriends over the past few years and he hated the drama.
There are many girls interested in dating our son...every few days I hear about another girl who secretly likes him. I work in the local school system, and know lots of Moms in town.
The girlfriend is upset because my son is very gregarious and talkative and funny, and she said in a message that she wants him to be "normal"...whatever that is. Apparently people are making fun of her, saying they are not in a real relationship. She told him she can't talk to him, which seems to mean she cannot communicate with him on the level she would like. He really enjoys talking about science, weather, physics and tell jokes, make people laugh. I think she wants to talk with him alone a lot more, and be serious. We have to keep reminding ourselves they are 13!! Maybe we are stricter than some parents are, but they are really too young for getting too involved.
They will be going on a science class trip together with 13 people for a week.
We feel like we have to remind him of the nature of a relationship at 13 years old and enforce that we said girlfriends are not prohibited, but there are boundaries. Next year is high school. We are finding some girls to be rather pushy/aggressive at this age. And many girls this age do have a rich fantasy life. This girl reads romace novels.
I did make a point of telling him that he will never have a problem getting a date, based on what we are seeing at this point. We have talked about sex and relationships in general, and I gave him the book " The 7 Most Important Decisions You Will Ever Make- for Teens".
Any other tidbits we should cover?
What do you feel are good limits at this age regarding texting, getting together outside of school?
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